Complaining about the bad is not knowing that there is worse

Jack Ma, Chairman and CEO of Alibaba Group, said, "A human attitude of never complaining is the first thing". Many of us, however, often complain. In the face of work, they complain about too much pressure; in the face of family, they complain about too many worries; in the face of society, they complain about the deterioration of the world; in the face of change, they complain about the unfair fate. In short, they can always find something to complain about, and they still feel good about it. Occasional complaints belong to an outlet for emotions, justifiable, if understandable. But if you do not know the time, no occasion, regular complaints is the problem. That is pathological psychology, a bad habit, and negative energy in life. Once this habit is developed, both harm themselves and affect others. We must pay high attention to it, overcome it consciously, stay away from complaining and live positively.

The reason why people often complain is very complicated, but I think there are two main aspects. One is that they will not treat life positively, and the other is that they will not compare correctly.

The main reason for not being able to look at life positively is that there is something wrong with cognition and mentality. People who love to complain do not learn to see things correctly, can not find the beauty of life, do not cherish what they have, do not know enough, not grateful. Things have their way of existence, and their results are always certain, but our attitude toward things is adjustable by our mindset. As Shakespeare said in Hamlet, "There is no such thing as good or bad in the world, it is all in the mind". When we face unhappiness, from a different perspective, the conclusion may be the opposite.

The more you compare, the angrier you get, the more annoyed you get, and finally the more jealous you get. So that they have a long sigh, complaining about God, always unhappy.

Learning the right comparison is an art of life, and is a way to make life happy. It is a kind of optimistic attitude, you can even say, is a kind of wisdom in life. People will always be compared with others, this is human nature to make. But how do compare the performance of the ability to manage the life of high and low?

The root cause of complaints is still the wrong comparison. The correct comparison is the source of happiness in life, incorrect comparison is the beginning of tragedy in life.

Franklin D. Roosevelt, the 23rd president of the United States, was a legendary figure, and the longest-serving president in American history. He "lifted himself out of a wheelchair and liberated an entire nation from submission. He is unanimously hailed by historians and political scientists as one of the three greatest presidents in American history, alongside Washington and Lincoln. Many of his stories have been passed down for a long time. One of them is the story of a burglary in his home, which is very enlightening and helpful for us to learn how to compare properly.

According to legend, Roosevelt's house was once burglarized and the damage was heavy. When a friend heard the news, he wrote to comfort him. Roosevelt wrote back, "Dear friend, thank you for writing to comfort me, I am fine now, thank God: because first, the thief stole my things and did not hurt my life; second, the thief only stole some of my things, not all of them; third, the most fortunate thing is that it was he who did the thieving, not me. ." It is absolutely unfortunate for any person to be stolen, but Roosevelt found three reasons not to complain but to be grateful from another perspective.

The writer, Stetson, once flirted with the idea that his profession was sick and that writing was only an amateur. He wrote the article "The experience of being sick is to know how to be satisfied step by step". In it, he wrote: "Only when you have a fever do you realize how refreshing it is not to have a fever. When I cough, I realize how peaceful my voice is when I don't cough. When I first got into a wheelchair, I always thought, "Wouldn't I lose my human characteristics if I couldn't walk upright? Then I felt dizzy. It was only when I developed bed sores and could only lie on my back for several days in a row that I saw how sunny it was to be sitting down. Later on, he suffered from uremia and was often too dizzy to think, so he missed the old days even more. Finally, I realized that we are lucky every moment because any disaster can be preceded by the word 'more'." You are complaining because you don't know that there are worse outcomes behind the bad. Once you understand, you won't complain, you'll just be glad for the best at the moment. Life is unpredictable, and no one can say who will come first, tomorrow or the unexpected.

That's why the famous Russian writer Chekhov taught us, "If you have a thorn in your hand, you should be happy that it's not in your eye." We should learn to deal with the small misfortunes in life correctly and learn to compare them properly. While we are still depressed about losing a pair of shoes, we should see that there are people without feet. Compared with the blind man who said "Spring is coming, but I can't see her", and compared with those who have lost their lives and freedom, who can now live in this world healthily, happily, and freely, who said it is not a gift of fate? What reason do we have to complain? We should be grateful. This day we live is a day that many people yearn for but cannot get!

When we complain that we don't eat well enough, we should think about the beggars who look for food in the garbage; when we complain that the house we live in is not big enough, we should look at the homeless people on the cold streets; when we complain that our wives are not gentle enough, we should listen to a husband who is scolded by his wife for being worse than a pig; when we complain that our husbands can't make money, we should know that there are people whose husbands are lying in sick beds; when we complain that our children are not good enough, we should know that there are people whose husbands are not good enough. When we complain about our children's poor performance, we should think about the many people who are worried about not having children; when we complain about our jobs, we should think about those who are unemployed at home and have not found a job.

Only when we compare ourselves in this way will we feel happy and grateful. At this moment, we are really happy, we should not complain, we should be grateful. We should understand that our life is fortunately not worse, while anything in the world has the possibility of being worse. However, we are really lucky to have such a good life thanks to our fate. With gratitude in our hearts, we can only cherish and be full of gratitude, we can only be content.

With gratitude, we will be able to repay our kindness; with gratitude, we will be able to ignore those unsatisfactory things in life; with gratitude, we will be able to blame ourselves for our inner narrow-mindedness and repent our faults; with gratitude, we will be able to forgive those people with whom we have had bad experiences in life; with gratitude, we will be able to live contentedly without complaining.

We can pursue a better life, but not complain about life, we can be more active in trying to make life better, but only not complain about life. Because, we are lucky, for the lucky ones, what reason is there to complain?

Complaining about bad is because you don't know there is worse.