How To Make Friends As An Adult

Making friends as an adult can be intimidating. Unlike the school playground, where we met our besties by default, there are no rules or assigned seating in the grownup world; it’s up to you to define how you want your friendships to look and then go out and find them. And to be honest, it gets harder to make friends as an adult because at that stage, the innocence and purity of merely wanting to be there for people fall into negatives.

Let us just say that, as an adult, making friends is a tad bit cautious. It is like you ate the fruit of the garden and your eyes suddenly opened. But It does not have to be like that because humans are inherently good people.

No one was born bad. people experience different things and their experiences form a part of their values and beliefs. Some people just do not like to have too many friends and that is ok. Everyone’s personality is different. But If you still find yourself in a tough situation here’s some advice on how to make friends as an adult:

Be the friend you want to attract

You don’t have to be friends with everyone you meet. but it pays to commit to being friends with others. Being friends is more or less a relationship, adjust to the commitment you receive, sometimes you just have to go all in. sometimes you just don’t. In the end, you have to access it for yourself.

Use your current friends

Ask your friends to introduce you to their friends

Ask your friends to invite you along to things they are doing

Ask your friends to be your wingman if you’re trying to meet new people

Go to parties

Know what kind of parties you would like to attend: Do you prefer private, invite-only gatherings? Or are you more comfortable in a room full of strangers? If it’s the latter, consider going somewhere where people don’t know each other so well — like a bar or an event hosted by an organization that has nothing to do with your usual social circle.

Know who will be at those parties: You should also take note of the types of people who tend to show up at these events. Are they mostly introverts or extroverts? People who find themselves outside their comfort zone often feel more comfortable hanging out with other people who appear similarly uncomfortable in new settings — which is why identifying and befriending them can be such an easy way to make friends as an adult!

Remember that it’s OK not to be friends with everyone you meet.

You might think that your goal should be to make friends with everyone at the party, but this is a good way to set yourself up for disappointment. Remember that you don’t need to keep every person you meet in your life forever. There are plenty of people out there who will share similar interests and values as you. You’ll find them when the time is right!

The key here is to be authentic, not just friendly. Don’t try too hard or fake interest if something doesn’t excite you; just let it go and move on quickly before anyone gets their feelings hurt. You don’t want anyone thinking they were rejected because they were boring or not cool enough for you — it’s better for everyone involved if no one knows why something didn’t work out!

Be the one to invite people to do things.

It’s important to be the one who’s initiating an activity. If you wait for someone else to invite you, or if you’re just waiting for them to ask if you want to come along, then they might not think of it and neither will anyone else. That can leave both of you feeling awkward and excluded from a group, even though no one meant it that way!

It’s a good idea to keep in mind that when someone invites you somewhere, they’re saying “I would like for us both to go together.” They don’t necessarily mean “I need another person here so I can make sure this event goes well.” And if someone is trying hard enough that they’re willing and able to pay attention when spending time with another person (rather than being distracted by their phone), then it indicates interest — and makes sense for two people who like each other enough not just as acquaintances but friends.

Follow up after meeting people and make plans after meeting them.

When you meet someone new, it’s important to follow up after you’ve parted ways. The first thing you should do is ask for their number and send them a text asking if they want to meet again. If they don’t respond, send a follow-up text or call them (a nice way of doing this is by saying something like “Hey — just checking in!”). If you still don’t hear back from them after that, send an email or message on Facebook.

If the person doesn’t respond at all, it’s time to stop trying and move on.