divorced
Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
25 Years with an Addict
Growing up in an abusive home, I always dreamed of what my family would be like when I got grew up and got married. Certainly would never treat my children like "this", nor my husband. I would use time outs, and talks, not screams, scolding and the spanks. But I failed.
By Tami Brzak Robb5 years ago in Families
The Truth Bound in Leather
As Erin left the courthouse and walked to her car, a tempest of various emotions began to overwhelm her. It was finally over. It was the end of an era, a new beginning that was both relieving and a little scary all at once. At the same time it was heartbreaking. How could a marriage that had started so beautifully and in such a perfect way, end with such bitterness and feelings of betrayal?
By Vince Coliam5 years ago in Families
Something Could Happen
The end of my 10-year marriage was recently finalized after the mandatory Colorado 91-day “waiting period,” and I was in the middle of an existential moment. What’s defined me for the past decade-plus is, legally speaking, gone. Being a stepfather and never adopting my now ex-wife’s kids means that I’m….no one. That’s an oversimplification, I know. They still see me as Dad, but I can’t make any decisions about them or, if an emergency befalls them, seek treatment for them without their mother’s consent. And in her eyes, I’m now a roommate who helps her take care of her kids. So, it’s a fair statement to say that a large part of me has been feeling empty.
By David Marquiss5 years ago in Families
Thank you
Twenty-three years. Some of you reading this aren’t even that old. That is how long I was married before we got divorced. Twenty-three years, although we were together for at least 25 total. More than half of our lives. People would say, “I’m sorry” when you’d tell them you were getting divorced; like it was a failure. It was never a failure. Twenty-three years is a success. Things happen, people grow and not always together. I know we both grew; I know I grew in a different, better direction for myself.
By Meg Lagares5 years ago in Families
Little Black Note Book
I couldn’t believe it. I mean does anyone who is a pre-teen really understand that their parents are going to get divorced? Unless maybe there is possible major abuse, which in my family there was none. It was just, Dad, Mom and 11 year old clueless, me. I was just going along in life thinking everything was fine and then, bam, Mom said we are moving out. Moving out? What does that even mean? Moving out of the only house I’ve ever known. My childhood home. Away from my neighborhood, away from my school, away from my friends. Who does this!?!
By Meg Lagares5 years ago in Families
An Unexpected Gift
I sat staring at the list of monthly bills, wondering what more I could do. I needed another $300 to pay that last utility bill, and I didn’t know where I was going to get it. Not being a stranger to financial difficulties, I had become pretty adept at “stretching every dollar”. I knew a lot of tricks, like putting off one bill to pay a more urgent one, or waiting until the last possible minute to pay a bill before there would be consequences, such as a late charge or the power being shut off. But I had run out of tricks this time, and that $300 utility bill had to be paid.
By Martha Drapeau5 years ago in Families
What Is Divorce?
DIVORCE Separation, or"disintegration of marriage," is the valid end of their conjugal relationship. The separation process is dealt with by family law attorneys (every offended life spouse holds their own advice ) and contains various issues, moving from branch of land into child authority. As soon as it's vital to hire a legal counsel who's talented at your financial and unique interests in a separation, is critical to find an attorney with whom you are feeling great in a single level. Separation is a passionate procedure, requiring delicate relationship building skills notwithstanding legitimate know-now.
By Axay Patel5 years ago in Families
A Perspective on Divorce in Indian-American Culture
In Indian culture and also Indian-American culture, it remains taboo to get divorced. There is a stigma of shame surrounding Indian divorcees and whispers in the community in the context of there being something “wrong” with individuals who do choose to divorce. Not only does this cultural barrier promote domestic violence to exist in many Indian homes, but it forces people to often put up a front of “toxic positivity” - pretending to others and often themselves that everything is ok when in reality the basic needs and desires of the individuals in the marriage are not being met. Growing up in Indian culture we are conditioned as children to have the mindset that marriage lasts forever, even beyond this lifetime and extending into 7 lifetimes as symbolized by the 7 circles a husband and wife walk around a fire in traditional Hindu wedding ceremonies.
By Suparna Saha5 years ago in Families
Divorce, from a Child's Perspective
The divorce rate in the United States is 40$-50%. Adults and children alike are affected by this separation. Some marriages end before children are brought into the mix, which possibly makes the separation easier. Nothing about divorce is necessarily easy, if abuse was involved there is trauma and healing to go through, if it was amicable, you're still likely to be left to deal with the loss of that connection. Once children come into the mix the effects are no longer just impacting the adults. There are both long-term and short-term effects of divorce.
By Shasta Scott5 years ago in Families
