divorced
Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
Are You Still Trying to Pick up the Pieces?
I host a radio weekly internet radio show on the VoiceAmerica Empowerment Channel called Life Altering Events. People often ask me, "What exactly is a life-altering event?" I tell them this—it can be something we choose, or something that is thrust upon us that dramatically alters the trajectory of our life.
By Frank Zaccari6 years ago in Families
Reclaiming Your Home After Your Divorce
You’ll either have to work with your ex to decide who gets what, or the two of you will have to allow the court officials to decide for you. If the court has to get involved in deciding how your property will be divided, state law governs the division. In many cases, you and your ex would each be able to keep any furniture or other property that was yours before the wedding. However, depending on the circumstances, you might have to provide receipts or other documentation proving that your property is really yours.
By Andrea Dawson7 years ago in Families
Things Not to Do When Getting a Divorce
DO NOT lie to the kids—if you have kids do not lie to them about what is happening to their family, why you and your spouse are choosing to get a divorce, or what is going to happen next. Kids are already going through the pain of divorce and one parent moving out of the house. Do not lie to them, even if you think it will make them feel better. It will assuredly make them feel worse. And may even make them feel that it is their fault, and that is why you are lying to them about it. And also they come to resent you for your actions.
By Amanda J Mollett7 years ago in Families
What Is Noble?
Okay, so not sure where to start. But I guess this is a story of determination. The story of love, sadness, and the story of nobility. It all starts at the birth of a child. You see in my community, the black community, fathers aren't very prevalent, or visible I should say. I did not want to become that statistic. I only have one child, a girl, she is now seven. I had my first child and only child when I was 30. I took that long because I felt that I wanted to be able to be the best parent my child could ever have. And I'm sure many parents feel the same. I, on the other hand, was raised only by my father. A little bit by my mother, who was there for a time when I was younger. At the age of seven I was sent to my father. I stayed with my father until my mother passed when I turn 16. My oldest brother however was able to stay with mom. And of course I got visits every now and then every summer to my mother prior to her passing. I was never told that she had cancer I was just told that she died. My only comfort at the time when I receive that information was my best friend and my Nintendo. Can I say father was a comfort? Not necessarily. As a child and at that age I held it against him the reason why I was not around my mother before she passed. But I know that's not fair but I was a child then. But that's neither here nor there.
By Face ShotU7 years ago in Families
Get to Know Me (My Crazy Life) Pt. 2
"Physically, I'm here. Mentally I'm far, far away..." The Life Changing Move The moment I found out that my younger brother and I were moving to Virginia with our dad for good, I would be lying if I said I was ecstatic for it. Even though I remember the good times of my mother and father being together and married, I knew that they weren't getting back together again. After the divorce, I lived with my mom, and my younger brother Jacob for three years. I lived in a filthy house, the smell of dog and cat piss was overwhelming and unfortunately, since I was so young, I thought all of this was normal. In a way, I have grown used to that kind of lifestyle. No electricity, hot water, heat, food, taking baths in a laundry basket with my brother and heating water in the fireplace was the "normal" for us.
By Kayla Triplett7 years ago in Families
The Evil Bio-Mom?
Growing up, I pitied the evil stepmother. From Snow White to Cinderella, fairy tales and movies, the stepmother was branded with a bad reputation. Even though her history was often a story of suffering, grief, and abandonment, she was vilified taking on all the glorious attributes of her wicked behaviors. Often, she was an older women, sometimes a mother, and sometimes not. She may have been a widow or an ambitious, childless female, hungry for power and wealth. She was a home wrecker, a whore, and sometimes a sorceress who sold her soul for her own personal gain. Incapable of being loved for who she was, she resorted to trickery, seduction, witchcraft or magic to lure the innocent and unassuming father into her web. Except for Carol Brady, the loving matriarch from The Brady Bunch—biological mother to three girls, and stepmother to three boys, she embodied the all or nothing, full-in mother that most women aspire to be, or view as an unattainable dream. However, the first Mrs. Brady was dead, so it was an easy story line to sell during a time when divorce was an infrequent occurrence.
By Andri Efstathiou7 years ago in Families
Children of Divorce
As I’m writing this, tears flow down my face, stemming from a pain that I thought wasn’t there anymore. A pain that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. A pain that only writing has healed over time. When my parents first separated, everyday was hard. After a while, some days became easy, and only some were hard. Now I am at a place in my life where most days are easy, and only a few are hard. Those are usually the big days, the holidays, the birthdays, days where I daydream that our family is back together. Days where I envision going to “my parents'” house instead of one or the other’s. Today is not big, but writing this made it "one of the those days."
By Mariah Dunn7 years ago in Families
3 Tips for Co-Parenting After a Divorce
It’s tricky. Is co-parenting together after a divorce is as daunting and frustrating as it sounds? It’s true that your schedule now depends on the flexibility of someone else’s and that you need to be cautious to make this experience as fluid and easy for your child as you can. Sounds awful, doesn’t it? Well, it doesn’t have to be.
By Amanda Lin7 years ago in Families
Dos and Don'ts for Winning Child Custody
Winning primary child custody isn’t easy. For this reason, you should equip yourself with information on the dos to follow and don’ts to avoid. You must have an action plan that you can only do if you have enough knowledge about what to expect. To get started, check out the following for useful dos and don’ts to win the child custody battle.
By Jennifer Grachova7 years ago in Families
