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Hanging out with friends could actually make you happier than roosting with your family : Here’s why!
It’s shocking but true! For quite a few of us, happiness does not mean spending time with family and finding relevance in unpleasant tasks like chores or caretaking duties. People don't shy in admitting that they usually feel higher sense of well being once they find themselves surrounded by friends and laze around; rather they do when in comforting nearness of their companion or kids.
By Sharat Misra4 years ago in Families
What Will Smith's Slap did to Black Sons
As a youth justice advocate, I work mainly with young men of color who are trying to claw their way out of the youth detention system. In most cases, their fathers have been one of two types: either completely absent from their lives, or modelling or encouraging of violent behavior. In light of this, I feel like the most important thing I can offer our youth is the consistent and caring mentorship of a fellow man of color. Sadly, in the celebrity world, there haven’t been many truly positive black mentors for these young men, or for myself. Ill Smith was one of the precious few ---- right up until Oscar Night. That's when "Will" became "Ill" to me.
By Graham K. Soul4 years ago in Families
It's Not Over, But I'm Better Equipped
Imagine someone coming to your house every day with drama. Coming over and telling a lie in front of your kids and guests. A big lie about your husband being unfaithful. Now Imagine that person was his mother. Can you imagine how difficult it would be to prove that she is not a credible source of information?
By Jade Amber Romanclature4 years ago in Families
Who Gets a Piece of My Birthday Cake?
It is that time of year again, the month of her birthday, when Dee reviews what has happened in the past year – the goals and the surprises. She also considers what, if any, changes she wishes to make to the crucial legal life documents, specifically estate documents such as will, life insurance, and other financial policies, that have beneficiaries and contingency beneficiaries.
By Tamelynda Lux4 years ago in Families
RF: He Found Out the Baby wasn’t His!
During an appearance on Def Poetry Jam, Ye spoke a poem regarding a man paying child support for a child that didn’t belong to him. He says, “Eighteen years/ Eighteen years/ And on the eighteenth birthday he found out it wasn't his!/ Maan! He killed that bitch, they gave him twenty-five years, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yuh-yeah.”
By Skyler Saunders4 years ago in Families
She Had To Flee
My auntie Jessica lies dying in a hospital in Johannesburg. She was flown from Harare yesterday. She has many different ailments affecting her. From blocked heart valves, diabetes, high blood pressure , besides a blood clot and asthma . Am so proud of her for having soldiered on as she is the only sibling from my dad’s family who is still alive. I understand my father had about 10 other siblings with most of them having been born as twins which was taboo in Zimbabwe during the 1920’s and 30’s. One of the pair had to be killed. I remember my grandma saying she had to flee with the remaining 5 of her kids from Chitsungo to hundreds of miles away so she and her kids would be safe. People believed they were a curse and would bring bad luck to the family. So the last straw was when my grandfather’s younger brother murdered the twin of my aunt Christina. She was 17 . I was told they were crossing a mutanda( bridge made of one very thick, long log)My grandfather’ s young brother who wanted to rid the family of this curse walked behind my dad’s twin sisters then threw one of them into the deep raging river. That’s how my aunt died at 17 causing my grandmother to take the rest of my dad ‘s surviving siblings away from this barbarism. Grandma’s kids looked different as my grandfather was a molato or what we call mixed here in England. Grandma was very light skinned too so they just looked strange and different from everyone else in this rural setting. To make matters worse they bore multiple pairs of twins. Which put the whole family in danger of these other relatives who were very superstitious.My auntie Christna only died in 2015 . She was probably in her eighties as no one in my dad’s family knew of their real age. 5 of them survived the killings including my dad with my aunt Estelle and uncle Cephas both having 1939 as the year they were born. Then auntie Christina and auntie Jessica who is now seriously ill come before my dad who had 1940 as the year of his birth. So now do you see what I mean. 2 of the older siblings had 1939 as year of birth, then there are 2 born after them and my dad the youngest of them had 1940 as the year he was born. Thats what happens when parents never enter a classroom. They can’t even think of separating the birthdays 9 months apart. Anyway it was my auntie Christina’s wish to be buried near her twin in Chitsungo but after she died obviously she had no say. She was buried next to my grandma Haiza who am named after together with my other aunt Estelle. Their graves face the homestead where my grandma Haiza bought land and built a homestead in the mineral rich area of.Mazowe in Mashinaland Zimbabwe. Grandma Haiza is said to still visit her homestead nearly 40 years since she passed away. She got divorced too, in an era where divorces where unheard of then moved her boyfriend in, very unusual too. She was hardworking and a very strong willed and independent woman, a lot like me. Now that the lights are about to be extinguished on my lovely auntie Jessica it saddens me a lot. She is the only link I still have to my father. She really looked like my grandma Haiza too. Auntie Jessica told me she is now in too much pain. I need her here with us but it is also selfish, so will now let God be.
By Haiza Juma4 years ago in Families
How to stop drugs addiction?
Drug abuse today is a menace in our society. More and more young people are falling victim to this habit. Some estimates put that about 25% of students in certain Universities are victims of alcohol-drug addiction. The drug sellers network is so large that any teenager can get it easily.
By DILIP CHANDRAN EDAPAYIL4 years ago in Families
3 Asian Stereotype Parenting Practices That I’m Not Following
Asian parent stories bring a bittersweet memory to me. When I read or hear about Asian stereotypes, I get this burning urge to talk about them. It’s like this weird gut feeling that just makes me want to stir shit up.
By Katharine Chan4 years ago in Families
