The 16 Habits of an Unsuitable Spouse

Most people recommend you to someone who's not just your significant other, but also your best friend. Sometimes marriage ends in a disaster, as you end up marrying somebody you didn't think was a good fit. Most people tend to exhibit their signs before they enter into marriage, find out how they'are alike and different, and then reconsider happily ever after.

Here are 16 habits of someone you never want to marry:

1. Be selfish

It can be tough to put yourself first sometimes. You may be used to putting others' needs before your own, and it might seem like the most logical thing to do. But being selfish can have several negative consequences.

First, you'll probably end up resenting your partner for taking priority over you. Second, you'll likely find it harder to build a healthy relationship with someone who never puts their own needs first. And finally, you're likely to sabotage your success in life by not putting in the effort necessary to achieve things on your own.

So how do you know when it's time to put yourself first? There's no single answer, but there are a few key things to keep in mind. First, make sure that what you're doing is benefiting yourself or someone else. Second, take care of yourself emotionally and physically as best as possible. And lastly, make sure that what you're doing is sustainable – if it's not going to work out long-term then it's probably not worth bothering with.

2. Be critical

If you're looking for a potential husband or wife, you'll likely want to avoid people who can't stand to be alone and constantly have too much time on their hands. Here are five habits that you should avoid:

They always have time for themselves and can use it however they'd like.

They don't need your attention and approval so they'll just be themselves without needing constant reassurance of their worth.

They never try to convince you that they're perfect because they know they're not perfect.

One of the hardest parts about life is the unknown, so there's no point in constantly putting pressure on someone else to marry them so that everything will be better.

3. Be unappreciative

Before you begin looking for bad in everything or everyone, it's important to first practice being more grateful for what you do have and what makes you happy. Practising gratitude will not only boost your mood but will also help you find happiness and love. In the end, it will also avoid another failed relationship.

4. Be demanding

If you're looking for a long-term partner, your expectations must be very high. Be clear about what you expect from them, and make sure they know that you won't tolerate anything but perfection. If they can't meet those standards, then they're not worth your time or effort.

Be sure to keep an eye on how they're performing to make sure they're meeting your high standards. If they continually fail to meet your expectations, take action - whether that means giving them a verbal warning or ending things with them if necessary.

If someone doesn't live up to your expectations, don't give them a free pass - hold them accountable until they've corrected their behaviour completely. If they don't take responsibility for their actions, then there's no way they'll ever be able to become a good partner down the road.

5. Be controlling

Micromanaging everything and everyone around them is why they're always in control. They are always criticizing others and asserting their superiority. Above all, they only care about themselves and their own needs, and they will do anything to get what they want.

6. Show no emotion

Most people would tell you that not having emotions is bad because it makes forming relationships harder and can make it harder to care about people. Many problems may start to arise because of the things that happen when a person doesn't express emotion. First, it's hard to form lasting relationships if you don't allow yourself to show emotion.

Secondly, many interactions may be misinterpreted, and someone might feel as if you're trying hard not to seem authentic. The third problem is related to negotiations or big decisions- showing emotions can help others decide on your behalf by putting some life into the conversation.

7. Make all the decisions

Making all the decisions is a big downside to marriage. When you have someone you're not sure about, it's easy to let them make some of the decisions for both of you. This often leads to conflict and unhappy marriages. Let your partner know what you want. If you don't want to do something, tell them. This will help them understand where you stand, and make fewer assumptions about what you might want or need.

Sharing your priorities and sticking to them is difficult if you have a partner who doesn't give you the same consideration. Let your partner know when they cross a line, and if necessary speak up about it privately. It can also create resentment later down the road if not addressed head-on. Don't let these negative feelings fester because they will lead to conflict down the road. Open up more by fostering positive communication and conversation habits in the beginning.

8. Cheat on your partner

The worst parts about admitting that you have a problem are the feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment. The best way to cheat on your partner is, to be honest with them about why you're doing it, give them closure for dealing with their emotions, and make sure there is openness and trust on both sides. If neither one of you has trust in the relationship, cheating will likely not work out in the long run.

9. Ignore their feelings

A habit that someone you never want to marry often possesses is the inability to recognize or respect your feelings. They may not care about how you feel, and may not consider your opinions. This can lead to conflicts, as they refuse to listen to what you have to say. If this person is in a position of power, they may also disregard your rights or mistreat you. If you're caught in this type of relationship, it's important to remember that no one owes you anything. You shouldn't tolerate untreated emotions and try to stand up for yourself. It can be annoying and difficult, but it's worth it if you want to end the relationship.

10. Be rude and abrupt

Some habits someone you never want to marry might exhibit are being rude and abrupt. This is usually a signal that this person is not thinking things through before they speak, and they likely have no filter when it comes to how they interact with others. They might also be very opinionated and not be willing to listen to others.

11. Constantly argue

Some people you shouldn't marry exhibit certain behaviours that can be overlooked at first. While they may seem harmless on the surface, these habits are an indication of someone who is not likely to be ready to commit and could lead you to find yourself at risk of divorce. Someone who has a personality that is aggressive and argumentative is unlikely to ever see eye-to-eye with others. This person will likely resent the need for compromise each step of the way. And lastly, this individual will rarely successfully resolve conflicts peacefully, which leads to the ongoing conflict that could even lead to divorce.

12. Not commit to anything

If you've ever been in a relationship with someone who constantly postpones or refuses to commit, then you know the pain. You end up unfairly and obsessively pushing them away because they refuse to tell you anything and show consistency. The biggest problem here is that it makes it difficult to plan anything. Whenever someone tries to get them to commit, they always come up with some kind of excuse. This makes planning difficult because you never know when their next "no" will be. The bottom line is that if someone doesn't want to commit, their future together is pretty bleak. If you're dating someone like this, it's best to just break up sooner rather than later before things get messy or confusing.

13. Pretend to be perfect

Anyone who's dated or been in a relationship knows that there’s no such thing as a perfect person. But when you’re looking for someone to marry, it can be helpful to pretend that every person out there is perfect. The problem with trying to be perfect is that it leads to unrealistic expectations and cataloguing your partner’s flaws can be difficult. It’s better to focus on the important things to you and accept that your partner may not have everything you want. Don’t get bogged down in petty arguments about little things. Concentrate on building a strong foundation for your relationship and don’t rush into anything. Just because someone seems perfect on the surface doesn’t mean they are right for you.

14. Hurt people's feelings intentionally

Some people in the world hurt other people's feelings intentionally. This happens when someone purposefully does something to make another person feel bad. Sometimes, this can be done without actually meaning to, while other times it is done with malicious intent. This type of behaviour is not only destructive but also hurts the person that is being hurt. It can make them feel like they are not worth anything or alone in the world. It is difficult for them to return to normal life after experiencing this kind of hurt, and it can even create permanent damage in their relationship. If you know someone who routinely hurts other people's feelings, do something to stop it! You could try speaking to them about their behaviour and see if there is a way to change it. If that doesn't work, you may need to take action and distance yourself from them.

15. Blame others for their problems

When individuals constantly blame one another, it can be easy to do the same. Sometimes, though, we need to remember that our problems are not solely ours to solve. It's important to step back and recognize other people were at fault for what happened. You cannot change other people, but you can change how you react to them by taking a small step back and contemplating the situation.

Conclusion

If you want to avoid marrying the wrong person, watch out for these 16 habits. They're not spoilers or deal breakers, but they should give you pause. Take some time to think about how you would react if your partner exhibited one or more of these traits. Then work on improving yourself so you don't end up with someone who has them all.