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Posing Nude
I am a large woman and as many of my friends and enemies know I am a rather frequent nudist. Now nudity isn't something all large women and men are particularly comfortable with. The majority of nudes we see in our society are in movies, porn or artist photographs; the bulk of these feature thin people frequently with medical enhancements. Doesn't make us thick-inclined types so sure anyone wants to see us naked and instills an internalized fear of our own nude bodies.
By Sarah Sparks9 years ago in Filthy
Pubic Hair or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Muff
I have recently read Caitlin Moran's How to Be a Woman. I was struck by her chapter on body hair, specifically pubic hair and our present cultural obsession with female pubic hair (or the lack of it). She suggests that having a nice hairy muff might even be a political action. It got me thinking about pubes and the ridiculous amount of thought women put into them. Women are no longer meant to have a "dark tangle of pubic hair" between their legs. We are meant to be bald between our legs, smooth as eggs, not a stray hair out of place that might find it's errant way between someone's teeth as they go down on you.
By Sarah Sparks9 years ago in Filthy
Nobody Gave Me an Owner's Manual for My Vagina
I've been thinking a lot about vaginas this week. I suspect anyone who owns one actually thinks and worries about it quite a bit. I also suspect those who don't own one think about them a lot too. Maybe I'm thinking about vaginas because I'm going in for clinical treatments again and that means I will have a lot of nurses and doctors poking around down there. Maybe it's because I'm reading feminist manifestos again. Maybe it's because my uterine lining is shedding, I'm bleeding like someone shived me, and it hurts like a sonuvabitch. Whatever the impetus for this train of thought is, I've been thinking about muffs, vags, minges, lady bits, pussies, cunts, twats, caverns, holes, carpets, mounds, vulvas, etc., etc. and now I'm gonna write about them.
By Sarah Sparks9 years ago in Filthy
The Danger Word
These days, everyone knows what a safe word is. It's a word, or a short phrase, you can say as a signal to let other people know you are no longer comfortable with an activity, and you need it to stop. The word originally comes from the kink community where participants would be engaged in scenes that might push boundaries, and trigger unwanted emotional responses. Bondage, whipping, consensual non-consent, etc. In some cases a person might even want the freedom to shout stop without their partner actually stopping.
By Neal Litherland9 years ago in Filthy
The Man with the Master Key
I had been seeing my favorite client, who I refer to now as 'The Impossible One' for about two years at this point. Things had already gotten over the line as far as the business vs. personal relationship. He was definitely my favorite. I was nuts about him and vice versa. So the lines were already blurred. There was a lot of internal things going on, emotional as well as physical. One of the rules of my business was to not get involved or fall in love with a client. That rule had been broken.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
Why Do We Find It So Difficult to Talk About the Important Things in Life?
After being contacted this morning by a fellow Twitter warrior; I felt it necessary to write this piece. He like myself has a "cause", his being that person who brings awareness to Herpes and the fact that it is so widespread and somewhat common these days, but no one wants to talk about it. Of course, he was feeling discouraged and perhaps knew intuitively that I might be someone he could share his angst with. He was right.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
Far-Reaching Health Benefits of Sex
Sex is a word bantered about in the media, conjuring a host of diverse images, however, seldom is this basic human act’s role in health and wellness discussed. Not so in Germany where researchers recently published the results of an extensive 10-year study that indicated that women and men who have sex on a frequent basis tend to be happier, more vivacious and slimmer than those persons who don’t have an active sex life.
By Marlene Affeld9 years ago in Filthy
Understanding Sexual Obsessions and Addictions
“Sexual compulsions and PRDs are complex psychiatric disorders therefore exact causes are not known, although there are many theories. Whether they represent an addiction, obsessive-compulsive disorder, impulse control disorder, or a pattern of hypersexualism is still a matter of controversy. Some have argued that since these disorders represent an ongoing pattern of uncontrolled sexual behaviour, they should be viewed as an addiction because like substance abuse, these consist of a pathological relationship with a mood-altering experience. Others have argued against this idea, instead describing paraphilias and PDRs as symptoms of an underlying obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).” - M. Williams, PhD brainphysics.com
By Carol Edwards9 years ago in Filthy
Threesomes
Most women find the idea of sharing the man they love with another woman infuriating. It brings out feelings of jealousy, anger and straight up “I’m going to beat a bitch’s ass if she touches my man” feelings but some women find that sharing their man with another woman is exotic, titillating and a huge turn on. I am a woman that is extremely turned on by watching her man have sex with another woman. I fantasize about it during sex and really enjoy it when it happens in real life. My husband and I have been married for fifteen years and we have had a handful of threesomes throughout our marriage and each time it has been one of the best experiences we have had together sexually.
By Jackie Sagastume9 years ago in Filthy
