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What Makes a Man Want To Commit?
What makes a man want to commit? This is a common but misguided question that can begin stirring in a woman's mind as early as before the first date, and usually indicates you're approaching dating from the wrong direction.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Welcome to the Friend Zone
Many men who are physically attracted to a woman end up exactly where they don’t want to be in said woman’s life. Welcome to the friend zone.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Call For A Good Time
As a young adult, I can honestly say that being financially stable is quite a dream for myself. And it stays as that, a dream.
By Beca Sayers9 years ago in Filthy
How To Tell Him You Want To Commit
You probably worry that if you mention commitment you’re going to scare him off. That he’ll think you’re desperate or needy. One of my greatest grievances with modern dating is that women have been primed to feel ashamed of wanting commitment (and equally ashamed if they want to keep things casual!)
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
What To Do If She Cancels Last Minute
You’ve got a date this evening with a girl you’ve wanted to go out with for ages. You’re thinking about what to talk about and how to go in for the kiss. Then-your phone flashes:
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Perfect Text To Send Your Ex
Girl … if you’re asking this question we need to get you back on the right track. I understand how hard break ups can be, particularly that painful first six to eight weeks when your life has been turned upside down and you’re dealing with the grief over someone who has disappeared from your life. It can be natural to try and fill the space he left by stalking him via social media hatching plans to get him back.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
How To Get More Guys To Approach You
I know the movies told you that ‘One day your Prince will come!’ So when you’re sitting alone at a bar, no one is coming up to speak to you and you're getting no matches on Tinder, this can all feel mortally disappointing.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
Importance of Sexual Communication
You may not agree with me, but I think that for some time now there has been much too much emphasis placed on the sexual needs of women and not nearly enough on the sexual problems of men.
By Lenny Legman9 years ago in Filthy
How Do You Know If She Likes You?
This is another one of those ‘if you’re asking the question you’re already losing’ questions. I don’t want you to spend another day stuck in your head, thinking about whether she likes you rather than asking her out in real life.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
What to Say if You Don’t Want Commitment
All men want to play the field and all women want marriage and babies, right? Wrong. Assumptions are one of the ‘fun destroyers’ of dating and relationships. So if you’re a man (or a woman) and you’ve decided commitment isn’t for you–at least right now–don’t assume this is going to be a major bombshell for whoever you’re dating.
By Hayley Quinn9 years ago in Filthy
What Do You Call Your Live-In Lover?
Lover? Boyfriend? Par amour? Fiancé? Baby? Dependent? Consort? Sweetheart? Honey? Roommate? If he’s not your husband and you’re living together, he’s your…? You’re his…?
By Emily McCay9 years ago in Filthy
Dating Rules of Engagement
I was once blind but now I see. Could it really be THAT simple? I talk about “a light going off” all of the time when I teach yoga. That ahhhh - now I get it feeling. And now I get it. I like rules and dating rules of engagement should be no exception. What I have refused to do, be, or become one of those women who play games. But that’s the secret if you want to get married according to All the Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. They don’t say to lie or be a bitch, you can be you, but you don’t have to give so much so fast. This makes sense. But this is not the epiphany moment for me. A man says he doesn’t like games or bitchy women and this can be perfectly true, but what he fails to tell you (of course he’s not going to make it easy on you, why would he?) is that he wants the chase, the challenge, to win YOU.
By Kim Stetz9 years ago in Filthy