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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Finding Yours
I was recently in a relationship that was rather short lived. Why? Good question. The relationship started when I was talking to a guy on this dating site. I have met many decent people on it, but thus far had no luck getting dates. This was my first. As a woman I must admit I was a bit terrified. Add onto the relentless nerves of meeting someone for the first time and the dangers of meeting an online person in real life, there is also the fact that I have no car. That meant that if I could not get a ride there he would be coming to pick me up. That would mean he would know where I live.
By Jenna Lake8 years ago in Humans
5 Ways to Make Your LDR the LOYL
I met Matt online when I was visiting family in Pennsylvania. I wasn't really sure what I was looking for, but he was funny and nice and super fun to talk to. I was 19 years old. We became instant friends and we continued to talk on and off after I went home, and even when we were seeing other people, because we weren't together, really. After a while, Matt got tired of it. He told me we couldn't just be friends—he wanted to be with me or we could have nothing. It hit me so hard. I realized how much I wanted to be with him. I had been so worried about the distance that I wasn't following my heart. Even though I live in Massachusetts and he lives in Pennsylvania, I took a chance, and now I know I met the man I want to spend my life with, even from eight hours away. It's difficult, but we make it work, and you can, too. There are ways to make long distance easier, and by utilizing resources available, it can make being far away a whole lot easier.
By Nicole8 years ago in Humans
Three Ways to Show Your Loved One You Care
Being in a relationship is difficult. Two people have to be entirely committed to make a relationship last. The thing about relationships these days is that, through the course of them, our significant others may start to feel forgotten or insecure due to the demanding lives we live. Whether it is work, school, volunteering, or just keeping up with the children’s activities, we can forget to offer that token of love that can remind our significant others that we are still present in the relationship with small amounts of effort at a time. This will keep the relationship going, even though your ability to cultivate it is being hindered by life.
By KAT Aguilar8 years ago in Humans
When Will It Be Enough? When Will You Choose You?
“There’s a woman reading this now, a woman who has tried her hardest to hold on to a relationship that is no longer worthy of her grip. that woman is tired of loving someone who refuses to love her back. there’s a woman reading this now that needs to be reminded of how strong she’s always been. that woman is possibly you and I believe that you are strong enough to move on with your life. this is a sign, this was written for you." -r.h. Sin
By M F8 years ago in Humans
Is Your Lover Cheating On You?
Cheating happens to both male and female partners. With today's advanced technology it is easier now than ever to look for signs and clues leading to your partner cheating. Text messages, emails, and online credit card statements might hold some sort of clues that your partner left behind. The typical signs: new wardrobe out of the ordinary, secrets, small white lies. If you feel like something is off but nothing really says cheating, it may well be just something simple...or it may be they are just a good liar. Here are some signs you may have overlooked.
By Grace8 years ago in Humans
Sleeping in Separate Beds Can Actually Be Good for Couples
OK, don’t go packing your pillow up just yet, but hear me out on this one. Most people assume that couples who sleep in different beds are having relationship issues, whether it be in or out of the bedroom. However, that isn’t always the case and sometimes just sometimes getting a better night’s sleep can do the complete opposite of cause problems, it could actually solve them. How bout them apples?
By Jus L'amore8 years ago in Humans
Cut the Relationshit
Valentine's Day is coming around the corner and so many people are doing what any person would do right before Valentine's Day...Make sure they stay booed up. So that they don't be that girl or boy strolling through a timeline of "Happy Valentine's Day Bae" posts while they are home alone. Yet, most people forget that toxic relationships are not worth "hanging in there" no matter the day or special event. Here are some signs you are in a toxic relationship A.K.A relationshit. Don't leave now! If you are scared to keep reading you probably already know and this is your tenth time asking your higher power to send you a sign, well here it is! Ten signs you are in a lovely relationshit...
By Moye Light8 years ago in Humans
The Relationship
I've been given different advice through the years as is comes to a lasting relationship. The counsel given ranges from newly committed to half- century with one spouse. Each pointer or tip, if you will, given was slightly different from the other. I can respect that for multiple reasons. I’ll give you two good ones. ONE: obviously every kinship is different because no two relationships are exactly the same; similar, maybe, but never identical. TWO: people are just at different stages in life as well as the relationship they are involved in.
By Anthony Crudup8 years ago in Humans
This Is What You Came For
This Is What You Came For 2/1/2018 We broke up in February 2016 in the most horrible way, just few days shy of Valentines day, AND shortly after i had given him $150 towards his light bill. You see, although he claimed to “love” me, I didn’t have my own place, an amazing job, or a car and I could tell he was growing tired of having to be a man and take care of himself by himself. He couldn’t use me. It didn’t matter that I was faithful, truly cared about him and his opinions, and that, when I wasn’t with him, I was thinking of him. None of that mattered. You see, he was a 35 year old drug dealer from the hood and I was a 22 year old dental receptionist from the suburbs. He was the beast that jumped at prey and opportunity and I was the naive, lonely, broken hearted girl looking for real love. For a while we existed together, bound tightly by passion, excitement, and the sheer thrill of a new thing. Happiness lived between us until the night I had the audacity to go out with my girls after he had caught “feelings” for me. At first it was “Ok. have fun, hmu later” text messages but an hour later I was getting abusive paragraphs filled with bitch, hoe, and dick sucking. I got my party on and woke up the next day shocked and pissed at first, then hurt and sad then flattered and relieved that he was so scared of losing me that he couldn’t control himself. So with me being naive, as I mentioned earlier, he apologized and I forgave. Sadly though, after that even with all the bending and compromising I tried to do for him, every time we had a disagreement I became that bitch and hoe again and I took it, 1) because I cared about him and 2) because I believe in making up and fixing things not just giving up. So come February–7 months in, I believe–he’s acting as if we’d been married 10 years and I’m that can’t-get-it-right housewife that needs to be verbally chastised everyday. I couldn’t understand why, every time I tried to do what he said, things just got worse.
By Tee Marie8 years ago in Humans
Breakups Suck
No amount of advice help to ease the pain of a breakup, cause let's face it breakups really, really suck. Having your significant other, the one who you saw and planned your future with. The one you spend all your time and effort on walking out of your life no matter if you decided to call it quit or you had it chosen for you, is a heartache.
By Bailee Schmidt8 years ago in Humans
The Single Reason Why Your Relationship Might Be Failing
Many people consider relationships as 'having found their other half'. We go from being whole to being half of something, a complete person only when we are with someone else. We allow our minds to be content with the fact that our lives are not truly our own, and that the ultimate definition of love is to forgo part of yourself with someone else by choice, believing that our lives are enhanced by the presence of something foreign to you. I am by no means an expert in the love department. I've had my fair share of boyfriends who have cheated on me, broken up with me, discovered their sexuality with me and even given the v-card by a boy I loved who trusted that I would know what to do. Even then, I am no love expert. What I do know is that while none of the men in my past have much in common with one another, there is still one deep, underlying fact that remains the same: our relationships eventually ended because we succumbed to self-abandonment in some way, shape or form.The honest definition of self-abandonment is to allow your true self to lie dormant in your relationship emotionally, physically, mentally, financially, spiritually and even socially, which opens the door for your partner to be responsible for you as a person.
By Delilah Jayde8 years ago in Humans
5 Thoughtful Places to Shop for Your Empath on Etsy. Top Story - February 2018.
Don't know what to get for someone this Valentine's Day? Or ever? It's true that it's the thought that counts but in this world, with flashing ads and Instagram's top products in our faces constantly, you may need a little help maneuvering through all the stereotypical crap and shallow gifts. After all, you want them to feel they're understood, right? Fear not, we got you covered. From chocolates and accessories to more practical gifts like journals and moisturizer, you'll be sure to bring a smile to your partner's face in no time.
By QuirkFrame Industries8 years ago in Humans