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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
How to Tell If He's Cheating on You
We can't help but confess that there are certainly times in a relationship that we can sense our partner is cheating on us. Whether he's going out more than hanging with you, or he's hiding his phone from you, there are definitely signs that he actually is seeing someone else. It's sad to say, but it's true.
By Lizzie Boudoir8 years ago in Humans
How To Be the Best Girlfriend
To be the best at anything, one must find a balance. Too much or too little of something can be the deciding factor between being the best and being the worst. First and foremost, it is important to be whole in regards to yourself: do not look unto your boyfriend to fill a void within yourself or somehow “complete” you, as it will only strain your relationship by putting unnecessary pressure on both of you. It's important that you have your own group of friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Once you have those things in place, it's important to keep up with them once you are in a relationship as well; don't all of a sudden forget about your life while living your partner's life. Knowing the correct balance is a key factor in any relationship, and by taking out the time to nurture your own likes you will actually make your bond stronger, giving each other time to miss one another. Although it sounds quite obvious, many of us forget that real love is not selfish. So just to remind ourselves: we should always love from the heart and love unselfishly, even if it is not in our favor at that moment. It's what real love is all about. Of course, our egos' may resist, but we must always be in control of our mind and our emotions, we must strive to be rational and of sound mind. As I am sure many of you already know, jealousy is the worst human quality to possess and it can break even the strongest of relationships. To be the best girlfriend your boyfriends could ever ask for, it is super important that you always trust your boyfriend whether it be his words or his actions. Otherwise, do him the favor of walking away, because without trust there is no relationship. And if you can't trust the person closest to you, who can you really trust ? Even if there have been times in the past that have led to you be skeptical or question his actions or words, the fact that you decided to stay means you have to leave everything in the past, and start fresh. You can't use the past as an excuse for you to question every word coming out of his mouth. You will only drive yourself crazy with the countless "what ifs" and make him feel like he constantly has to explain himself, even when he is doing nothing wrong. Try to be understanding as opposed to demanding, and give without expecting something in return. It is important that you be genuine in your actions, whatever you do, because he will sense the level of sincerity in your actions. Be patient and kind: someone your boyfriend can turn to without feeling judged. Be someone you, yourself, would want to be around. Have things in common: hobbies and interests to share and discuss, just as either of you would have with your own friends. Don't complain: if you don't like something, do something about it. Don't just talk about it endlessly: change can only happen when you take action. Be confident in the love you share. Don't make waves in hopes of getting a reaction to prove your boyfriend loves you, like making him jealous. Many times we want something from our boyfriend and instead of just coming out and saying what is that we want, we prefer to drop little hints here and there: hints that, more often than not, go unnoticed or, even worse, are completely misunderstood. Communication is key in any relationship, romantic or otherwise. It is important to be able to be straight up with your significant other and speak up when something bothers you. Dropping hints that they may or may not pick up is immature and only wastes time you could have spent together cuddling or laughing and enjoying each others company. Instead you're upset, and he's busy trying to figure out what made you upset when he could use that time to hash it out and move forward, leaving it in the past. Be confident in yourself and the kind of girlfriend you are, and he will have no choice but to do the same.
By Erika Potap8 years ago in Humans
Bluffy the Vampire Slayer
People don't always say what they mean... either they say what they think we want to hear or they create a facade to make themselves look like they're something they're not. All these fronts and disguises just makes it that much harder to really get to know someone, especially someone who you may want to potentially get into a relationship with. Ladies, how many times have you been with someone you thought was perfect, and then six months down the line you ask yourself what crack you were smoking to make that kind of a decision? And let me tell you, your crack habits are completely irrelevant at this point. It has nothing to do with you at all. The guy's mask just comes off and you see someone completely different, someone you don't even recognize... You see the person behind the mask.
By Erika Potap8 years ago in Humans
How to Listen to Others
When someone needs your support, sometimes it is hard to know how to help and you can do more harm than good. Of course, you have good intentions but it can be difficult to know what to say when a person is pouring their life story out to you and you are completely unprepared. Consider this your guide.
By Lexi Merrick8 years ago in Humans
Me, as a Part of the Problem
It is always easy to blame a broken heart on someone else. What they did or did not do or say. Nitpicking every detail of what you now find to be wrong with the person who left you with a heart broken, even if it was you who left. Excuses are never hard to find if you are looking for them, and when it comes to relationships, the easiest excuse for the demise of love and happiness is the person who is not there anymore. I spent copious amounts of time in my 20s blaming my feelings of hurt, low self-worth, and anger on those who left, or who I left without looking inward to see if perhaps myself and my actions were a part of the problem. It was always the other person who didn’t love me, see me, want me, or like me. I was so quick to point out their faults within our relationship, all the while seeing myself as only a victim of terrible circumstances.
By Angela Bullard8 years ago in Humans
Eve
Her name was Lola. She was a Showgirl. No, I'm joking. She was nothing more than a girl whose soul flourished with laughter and thrived off love. But she was lonely. She was sad. She was single and alone, and yet surrounded by the people who loved her, but always by herself.
By Zoe WOODRUFF8 years ago in Humans
