advice
Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Dear 35-Year-Old Me
I hope you’re happy. Finally, after years and years of talking down to yourself, not thinking you’re deserving of love, or interaction or even a kind word from others—to think you’re not worth the attention of someone who clearly thinks you are—finally, I hope you’re happy. I hope you’ve listened to the people who told you were kind, and who told you that you made them smile, or that they continued doing something because you believed in them. I hope you still believe in people; I hope that after all the bad experiences you’ve had with the wrong people, it hasn’t clouded the fact that the world is full to the brim of lovely, lonely, vibrant and amazing people—and you love making a connection with them. And, to a lesser degree, I hope you’ve realised that when people told you that you were attractive, pretty, beautiful, etc., you don’t have to explain to them why you’re not. You’re not up your own arse for accepting kindness. Yeah, life’s not about being a piece of art, or attracting others, or people fancying you—but it’s not about berating your appearance either. Sometimes, it’s okay to feel good about yourself, and sometimes it’s okay to spend money on looking good. I hope you realise how lucky you are that you had the body you had (and put no effort into). And I hope one day you look at pictures of yourself and realise that you were beautiful.
By Pixie Alannah-Wilde9 years ago in Humans
Polyamory Is Not Cheating
When I tell people that I am engaged in a polyamorous relationship, I get a wide variety of reactions. Often I hear "what does that mean?" or "I could never do that." However, perhaps most often, people ask me, "Isn't that just an excuse to cheat?"
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to the Women Who Can Never Be Single
Dear Relationship Addict, I get it. I really do. Everyone wants to be loved by someone. When others call you beautiful or say "I love you" or tell you how special you are, it makes you feel valued. The fact that you've impressed someone enough to make them want to date you provides a kind of validation. You’re pretty enough. You’re interesting enough. You’re worth noticing.
By Taylor Markarian9 years ago in Humans
How Expectations Can Cause Relationships To Fail
The other day, my friend was in the middle of a breakup with a guy she had been casually seeing for the past couple of months. It was a complex breakup in many ways — primarily because both parties seemed to be unable to come up with an understanding of why the relationship failed to bloom.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart9 years ago in Humans
Long Distance Relationships: Can Anyone Do It? . Top Story - July 2017.
So you're lying in bed grinning ear to ear because that one super hot guy that you've been interested in for a while finally asks you out. But shortly after you find out that he's going to be moving away. We've all heard that long distance relationships never work out. But there's that 1% that finds true love and overcomes that distance, right? At least that's what you tell youself as you cry yourself to sleep, afraid to lose the man that you've fallen in love with.
By Lynnaya Schieck9 years ago in Humans
Mindful Words
Today I was at my Dad's church for service. Lots of things happened, that I don't really feel the need to go into, but one of the things done during the service was filling out this pledge with our names. This pledge said "_________________ promises to continually learn and seek to inspire others in Christ," or something to that effect. I look at this sheet of paper that sorta looks like an award from elementary or middle school with a large blank where we are meant to write our names. I, as a genderfluid individual, have two names: the name I choose to go by and the name I was given.
By Danni Greer9 years ago in Humans
The Positive and the Negative
I am, by nature, a stoic, sardonic person. I don’t outwardly exhibit a great deal of emotion (I’m laughing on the inside, true story) but I have always had a knack for presenting myself with a cutting wit, something I think comes from also being a naturally intelligent person.
By D. Gabrielle Jensen9 years ago in Humans
Home Alone: Should You Live by Yourself?
Often considered an important milestone for young people in their 20s, most people will live alone at some point in their lives. However, with rent and property prices skyrocketing this option is becoming increasingly distant for many. Should we really aspire to live alone for a period?
By Hannah Collins9 years ago in Humans
5 Questions You Should Ask Yourself Before You Decide You've Found 'The One'
On July 1st, 2017, I said "yes" to the love of my life when she proposed that we spend the rest of our lives together. And on July 7th, we celebrated our 8 month dating anniversary. I know what you're thinking... "That's too soon! You should get to know each other better before making such a life altering decision!" Believe me, we've heard it all. Let me assure you, however, that unlike some poorly thought out decisions I've made in the past, this is a decision I'm 110% sure about. There was no hesitation or doubt in my mind whatsoever. I already knew.
By Kathryn Ward9 years ago in Humans
Cheating
Hi, my name is Daniel Moore. I was recently cheated on by an ex. It's happened to me a few times in my life but this one for some reason really hit me hard. I guess because I had built up so many walls from past relationships that I never quite gave into this one until after about 100 breakups and two and a half years. Our story begins in where else than Los Angeles, CA.
By Daniel Moore9 years ago in Humans
Gender Identity
Gender identity is generally found between the ages 13 and 19 years old. This is when teens are gaining new experiences, emotions, relationships, expectations and all of this can become overwhelming for any teen that age. However, adding gender identity into the mix of everything else that is happening within themselves and around them can cause these years to be the most confusing time for teens. They will find it hard to navigate their gender identity around school and/or home, with their doctors or even with their friends.
By Lizzy Arrow9 years ago in Humans
