divorce
Divorce isn't an end; it's a different beginning.
Divorce Filings Skyrocket during The Holidays.
As a divorce mediator I have noticed a troubling, sad fact: more people file for divorce during the holidays or right after. There is something about the atmosphere of family and tradition that seems to bring everything to a boiling point; Thanksgiving and Christmas in particular emphasize family and togetherness. For a spouse in the throes of an affair, separation from their affair partner during this time leaves a large and agonizing emptiness. They come to the inevitable reality that they can no longer put off divorce and that being with their “soulmate” must become their number one focus. Thus, its off to the attorney to draw up divorce papers and hand them to the unsuspecting spouse during what is supposed to be the happiest time of the year.
By Paula Myers Waterman5 years ago in Humans
Bomb Drop Pt 2
In the months before bomb drop, when he was going to “therapy” and sitting on the sofa staring off into space, I would gently, tentatively, ask him, “hey what’s going on?” to which he would bark, “Leave me alone! I don’t have to tell anyone what is going on! I deserve to have peace, and be left alone in my own home!” As a consummate people pleaser, I would duck my head, retreat in fear, and meekly slink away to wonder exactly what was going on.
By Paula Myers Waterman5 years ago in Humans
Bomb Drop Pt 1.
10:00 pm 2009 Halloween Night- my husband decides to “walk the dog.” Now mind you, my husband never walked the dog, EVER, so I knew that something was fishy. Granted, things had been fishy for a long time, but I couldn’t ignore this or talk myself out of it. This day had been a long day coming.. three years to be exact. Right after he became a captain at the airline he worked for as well as becoming CO of his Marine C-130 squadron, he began to distance himself from me and the children, becoming colder and more contemptuous.
By Paula Myers Waterman5 years ago in Humans
The Other Woman
The other woman How in the hell does a family trip turn into a divorce? Well I’m still not sure if we’re getting one or not, but I am sure that my husband is an asshole. You’re probably wondering who I am, right? And why is my husband such an overbearing piece of shit? Sit tight, I’ll tell you how. First of all, I’m Abundance Peace(don’t judge my parents wanted to change the world). Hence the name, but that’s besides the point right now.
By Myrra Lyde-Wilson5 years ago in Humans
Your spouse just served you divorce papers and you never saw it coming.
Your spouse just served you divorce papers and you never saw it coming. You were blindsided. Maybe like my ex, they were living a double life and just couldn’t deal with the stress of it any more. Or maybe you had an inkling that something was wrong, but you couldn’t quite put your finger on it. Either way, your spouse, who had been plotting and planning their exit for some time, got up the gumption to serve you divorce papers. And maybe they did it in public, or at your place of work (mine served me papers at church, my place of employment at the time) or even at home. However it happened, it feels like someone sucker punched you in the gut and then kicked you in the head for good measure. I remember the document processor who served me my paperwork, the apologetic look on his face combined with a look of pity. I stood in front of him tears streaming down my face, while he had me sign his notebook, documenting that I had been duly served.
By Paula Myers Waterman5 years ago in Humans
I'm Done Dating Until I'm 50
I've decided I am finished dating until I am 50. This is, and at the same time, is not a pleasant thought, but it is what it is. I have made this decision because it's not only the responsible thing to do but after a lot of discussions with my daughter, her life is already confusing enough without me adding a stranger into the mix. The circumstances revolving around her being from a broken home are traumatic enough, not to mention the trauma it caused me on a personal level. Trauma I have since turned into a strength, but trauma nonetheless.
By Jeremy Hanson5 years ago in Humans
Blindsided & Broken Hearted
Never in a millions years would I have thought that I would be getting divorced. We’ve been together for 15 years total, but we’ve only been married 7 years. August 17th, made 7 years. This year has been nothing but a revelation. Anything and everything that could happen did. In January my husband and I got into a heated argument over the taxes. We were to receive a return and the IRS confiscated it due to debit I owed. In 2017, I elected to remove a large sum of money from an account that was not collecting any interest. Before I could have it deposited into my bank account, I would have to pay taxes on it. From my understanding, that process was handled and the money was deposited. 2019 rolls around and here I am being slapped with a 10,000 dollar tax debt because the federal tax amount that was deducted was a improper amount. Apparently the amount taken was 10,000 dollars short of their prior calculation. My husband, who works Overseas as a contractor, emails me in a rage. The conversation was all about how hard he works for his money and because I neglected to pay my taxes, they took his money. Nevermind that we filed together and I work as well. We are arguing back and forth and I tell him that I’m going to get the money (our tax refund) back. At this point, I need to get on the ball and figure out something.
By Heiress Harrington5 years ago in Humans
Surviving a Monster
You buy the test, you pee on the stick, the lines turn pink and your dreams are finally coming true. All the months of trying have finally given you your rainbow baby...but then the bottom drops out. The man you love, the man of your dreams. changes before your eyes. Slowly but surely, he becomes someone you don't even recognize anymore. He plays the game so well, you are the only one that sees it. The changes are small at first, easily explained by the stress of a third child on the way. He starts drinking more frequently and heavier. Blackout nights become the norm, instead of the random occurence they once were.
By Finding the Light 5 years ago in Humans
