There I am, scars and all. I used to be really conscious of the scars. I would fret about not being perfect and about being judged. Then I realized those who judge have a lot bigger issues than lupus. Being diagnosed with lupus seemed like a death sentence in the beginning; granted, it did come with complications (the biggest of which is a platelet disorder called TTP). Both are lethal. My first thought was, "How do I get control of this thing?" Took a few years of trial and error, but the answer was patience, diligence, and a profound respect for my body. I changed every aspect of my life to do battle with this thing. The way I eat, the way I think, the way I work, I even had to change some of my friends. Yep, it's true. When you get really sick, you find out some people just can't hack it. For me, those were the "just be quiet and let the doctor run the show" people. They don't want to take anything that's not prescribed. They don't want to learn about nutrition. They don't want to lose weight. They don't want to expand their mindset. They THINK that a person has no control over what happens to them. It's always out of their hands. My take on that was, and still is, BULLSHIT!
It is NEVER out of your hands. Of course things will happen that you can not control. Like, who knew my dad was a carrier for two of the most deadly illnesses on the planet? But you work with what ya got, and you make lemonade out of lemons. So I studied and asked questions from every doctor I had. Wanna know what I found out?? Outside of their specialty—they are clueless. The other thing I learned is, if you don't demand it, they don't share information until you are critical. Getting a dialogue going was not easy. After I started looking into alternative medicine, it was even harder. However, as I turned around and got stronger, they opened up and started taking note of my input in the recovery process. My determination to be proactive was paying off.
Flash forward seven years. I thankfully remain in remission from the TTP, and my lupus in manageable. It is a blessing in every sense of the word. I guess my point here is that you can make a difference in your own life if you roll up your sleeves and do the work. Now I wear those scars with pride. They are signs of a battle won. Will there be more? Probably. They will add to my character and dimension.
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The Japanese Have a Word for People Who Look 20 Years Younger Than They Are—and It Comes Down to 6 Daily Habits
In Japan, there is a concept that has captured global attention: people who appear decades younger than their chronological age. The Japanese language has a term for this phenomenon, often referred to as “若見え (Wakami-e)”, which translates to “looking young” or “youthful appearance.” While genetics play a role, research and cultural practices suggest that daily lifestyle choices are a far more significant factor. Japanese individuals who maintain a youthful appearance tend to follow six core habits that support their skin, body, and overall vitality. 1. Mindful Eating and Portion Control A foundational aspect of Japanese longevity and youthful looks is diet. Traditional Japanese cuisine emphasizes fresh, seasonal ingredients, including vegetables, fish, seaweed, and fermented foods like miso and natto. Meals are typically balanced, colorful, and low in processed sugars and fats. Portion control is another critical element. The Japanese practice “Hara Hachi Bu”, a Confucian-inspired habit of eating until they are 80% full. This mindful eating prevents overconsumption, reduces digestive stress, and helps maintain healthy body weight—all of which contribute to a youthful appearance by reducing inflammation and slowing skin aging. 2. Regular Physical Activity Staying active is considered essential for preserving vitality. Many Japanese adults incorporate daily walks, cycling, and light exercise into their routines. Traditional practices like Tai Chi, yoga, or calisthenics also promote flexibility, balance, and core strength. This consistent movement enhances circulation, supports heart health, and maintains muscle tone. Physical activity also helps in the regulation of hormones and reduces stress, both of which are linked to skin elasticity and a youthful glow. 3. Hydration and Green Tea Consumption Hydration is critical, and in Japan, green tea is a daily staple. Rich in antioxidants like catechins, green tea helps fight oxidative stress, reduces inflammation, and protects the skin from premature aging. Beyond tea, regular water intake ensures cellular health, improves metabolism, and supports detoxification processes, all contributing to a fresher, more youthful complexion. 4. Skincare Rituals Japanese skincare practices are meticulous and preventative rather than reactive. Daily routines often include: Gentle cleansing to remove impurities without stripping natural oils Moisturizing to maintain skin hydration Sun protection, using sunscreen even on cloudy days, to prevent UV-related damage Facial massages or acupressure techniques to enhance blood flow The focus is on maintaining skin health from an early age, which contributes to a natural, age-defying look over decades. 5. Stress Management and Mental Well-being Stress accelerates aging, and Japanese culture places a strong emphasis on mind-body balance. Practices like meditation, forest bathing (Shinrin-yoku), and traditional arts (e.g., calligraphy, tea ceremony) help reduce stress and foster mindfulness. Mental well-being is closely linked to hormonal balance and sleep quality, both essential for a youthful appearance. 6. Adequate Sleep and Circadian Rhythm Sleep is often regarded as the ultimate restorative practice. Japanese individuals prioritize sufficient rest, typically 6–8 hours per night, while maintaining consistent sleep schedules. Good sleep supports cellular repair, hormonal regulation, and cognitive function. It also prevents dark circles, puffiness, and skin dullness—common signs of aging. Cultural Context and Longevity The Japanese approach to youthfulness is not just about appearance—it is deeply intertwined with overall longevity and quality of life. Japan consistently ranks among the countries with the longest life expectancy, and studies suggest that lifestyle habits, rather than genetics alone, are largely responsible. A combination of nutrition, activity, mental health, and social engagement creates a holistic environment where people not only live longer but also look and feel younger. Lessons for a Global Audience While genetics cannot be changed, these six habits are adaptable for people worldwide. Eating a balanced diet, staying active, maintaining skin health, managing stress, drinking enough fluids, and prioritizing sleep can have measurable effects on physical appearance and vitality. Experts suggest that adopting even a few of these habits consistently can make a noticeable difference within months. Additionally, the Japanese model emphasizes prevention over correction. Instead of relying on invasive cosmetic procedures or expensive treatments, the focus is on sustainable daily practices that protect the body and mind from the cumulative effects of aging. Conclusion The Japanese word for looking far younger than one’s age encapsulates more than aesthetics—it reflects a philosophy of balance, mindfulness, and daily self-care. By integrating the six habits of mindful eating, regular physical activity, hydration, skincare, stress management, and proper sleep, individuals can promote longevity, vitality, and a youthful appearance. Ultimately, “Wakami-e” serves as a reminder that age is not merely a number but a reflection of lifestyle choices, habits, and attitudes. Through conscious daily practices, anyone can cultivate health, resilience, and the timeless appearance that Japanese culture has long celebrated.
By Fiaz Ahmed about 14 hours ago in Longevity
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