Becoming a better YOU.

As we get older, we tend to grow and evolve into the people we are meant to be. These changes can happen in various ways. While there are some people who are just stuck in their ways and are afraid of change and growth, most of us will take that step into becoming the best version of ourselves.

Becoming who we are meant to be can happen by

1. Facing our truths.

Facing our truth is a lot. Often at times, we are in denial. Sometimes, we believe that it isn’t our fault because certain situations happen. We could be in denial about our sexualities or just about how badly our habits can not only affect us but affect the ones we love as well. When we face our truth, we allow ourselves to simply be real. We hold ourselves accountable for the outcomes of situation, and we become clear of what it is that we have done or who we really are. Once we face that truth, we can then take steps into becoming better people.

Through high school and even afterwards, I had a lot of bad habits. I abused alcohol and used it as an escape from reality. I just couldn’t handle the amount of drama that came being in a single-parent home. I was also finding ways to fill the void of having an absent father. Between sexing older men and abusing alcohol, it caused me to act out in ways that to this day; I regret. If I could go back in time and do things differently, I would.

Now, I decide to face my truth. Understand that even though this is what I’ve done, I can change. I made sure that I did whatever it took to outgrow those bad habits. I am still making changes to this day.

2. Cutting off and walking away from toxic people

Toxic people are the WORST! These people can literally be anybody. From family, friends, co-workers and just people who are simply no good for you. I was close to a family member who turned out to be very jealous and envious of me. It was like she was always in competition with me. I never understood why. This year was the year that I decided to walk away from the relationship we had and decided to love her from a distance.

Co-workers can also be toxic. Working in various nursing homes, I found myself connecting with other workers in different departments and there was one thing they all had in common: drama. these people would literally smile in your face and back stab you the next. It was hard to deal with them because you worked with them, but the older I got, the more I realized that your co-workers are not your friends. Get your money and go home. Now, there are some people who form successful friendships with their co-workers and if you have; I congratulate you. However, most of the time, being friends with people you work with just doesn’t work out.

Walking away from toxic friends can be just as heartbreaking as walking away from that toxic family member. It hurts, but if you want to become the best version of yourself, you must let go of those people who are no good for you.

3. Taking better care of ourselves

You can take better care of yourself in various ways. Seeking therapy to help heal things from the past that broke you, drinking more water, working out, journaling, focusing on your priorities and focusing on being happy. Taking care of yourself is way more than just getting your hair, nails and feet done. It’s inner work. LOTS of it. If you’re dedicated enough, you will do it. Taking better care of ourselves is a way of becoming the person we are meant to be. It helps build your confidence, clears your mind, keeps you motivated and focused on what’s important in your life and you become happier. I cannot stress how important self-care is.

4. Letting go.

LET IT THE FUCK GO! I know it’s easier said than done, but I’m telling you. If you want to become a better person, it is especially important to let that hurt from the past go. It took years for me to let go of the pain I felt in my past, but I did it. Certain things are unforgiveable, and I understand that. And you don’t have to forgive those people who wronged you. But if you want peace in your life; move on from it. I promise you; I have witnessed people become bitter and cold-hearted towards others simply for the fact that they were hurt from their past. People wronged them and they couldn’t find it in their hearts to forgive and let go. It’s sad to see such great people become that bad seed. Especially when they by choice choose not to heal. I’m writing this to let you know that peace comes from within. If you want to become the best version of yourself, you must be willing to let go of things from the past.

I hope these four steps help you become the best version of yourself. There are plenty of other ways to do this, but I wanted to point out only a few ways. If you liked this article, be on the lookout for more. I look forward to hearing your thoughts about this writing.