Choose your Partner

Before marriage, before starting a relationship there is much to think about. You need to decide what to look for in a partner, you need to decide which flags are red, which are green, and which are yellow because this is the person that you will be with. This is the partner that you will have all your adventures with, the partner that you will have a "ship" with, and that ship can sail many seas, either high or low tide, either through a storm or the calm. You want them to navigate and explore other islands with you, these islands might be mysterious, might be treacherous, but you need to know you can get through it all together. Don't forget about the mist that may rise and fall. I am so glad I have the partner that I have. We were both very open on what we wanted right from the beginning of the relationship. I chose the job I have for reasons that I get really good benefits; I have a retirement plan; I have flexibility from going part-time to casual to full-time all to plan for having future children. My husband was looking for someone that would be willing to raise children and be an at home mom, while he goes to work to make money for the family.

So, here we are embarking on this journey called marriage. There are many opportunities to explore right now, we might be moving to the USA to achieve our three goals: children, house, retirement, we both know what the future looks like if we stay in Canada, one of the three will happen, but not all three. Neither of us will know where we end up, we could be living in Texas, we could be living in California or we can stay here in Canada, or we can buy a camper van and travel while working odd jobs here and there with no permanent location. we are able to think of these spontaneous things because we have no children right now, moving cities for a child is very hard, so now's the time for us to make these changes. There is so much uncertainty in life, so make sure you are certain about the partner you end up with. I know I can fully rely on my husband to be there for me, he's proven this to me time and time again.

we have no idea where our ship is sailing right now, so we are just slowly cruising through the mist right now, trying to figure out which direction to go, by looking at a compass and navigating through the unknown mist that surrounds our ship. The mist from time to time clears up, but then it builds back up again. I will be at the crow's nest looking for the next stop, while he is at the wheel being a captain figuring out where to go next, what is the next best course of action. A captain cannot man a ship alone though, he needs a look-out a supportive team player that needs to man the sails.

Some of you might be thinking "what about your career?" and I will tell you, "I don't have a career, I have a job. It will always be my husband's careers before mine," he has no competition, he has my support to do whatever it takes to make the best life for us. Am I nervous for a sudden life change whether it be pregnancy or moving to a whole other country? I most absolutely am, but I know that I can do anything with my husband standing at the wheel. I know that one day that mist will clear up and we will be exactly where we need to.