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Sleep, Perchance To Dream
I have made just two resolutions for 2022, one for me and the other pertaining to the results from resolution one. The first is to attempt to overcome the particular form of insomnia I suffer from. I do not have an issue with falling asleep; it's staying asleep that is the problem.
By Michael Trigg4 years ago in Humans
Pose and Repose
In the state of nature when the sense of hunger is appeased by the stimulus of agreeable food, the business of the day is over, and the human savage is at peace with the world, he then exerts little attention to external objects, pleasing reveries of imagination succeed, and at length sleep is the result: till the nourishment which he has procured is carried over every part of the system to repair the injuries of action, and he awakens with fresh vigour, and feels a renewal of his sense of hunger. --Erasmus Darwin, Zoonomia, 1794
By Gerard DiLeo4 years ago in Humans
How To Keep Up Appearances At Work While Going Through A Divorce?
Getting a separation can be probably the hardest thing you do. Your marriage was built on the foundations of love and trust and now that those foundations are no longer there, it can make you feel quite insecure. It’s normal to feel irritable, in any event, when you're working. However, it’s incredibly important to maintain your composure when you’re in a professional environment, as you never know how upper management will perceive your actions. Once you’ve spoken to a divorce lawyer and are sure about the proceedings, you can use the following tips to take care of your mental and emotional health, even at work.
By Alexander1584 years ago in Humans
Mindful Rest
A comfortable bed, pillows and blankets is a race only half won. To achieve mindful rest is something achieved by many contributing factors! Mind control, relaxation techniques, ambience, dietary habits and more can contribute to a persons quality of sleep. I have found in my own experience that implementing breathing exercises, navigating thought and dietary habits mostly help me to get a better night of rest. For some the pressures of daily life and haunting of living in the past can have a tremendous effect on their ability to unwind. This is where navigating thought comes in to play. To clear your head space, might call for repetition of thoughts such as “this is my time to rest, tomorrow with rest I will take a new step towards managing my life, but for now I need rest”. Others might repeat thoughts such as “I forgive myself for my mistakes, I will rewrite the ending, and rest now”. For those who eat late at night, you may be suffering bad dreams or waking up feeling fatigued! I believe that habit can be quite taxing, similar to shutting the car off but turning the key just far enough to play the radio; you’re killing your battery. Perhaps all systems should be down for proper rest. I have found that not eating at least a hour and half prior to rest helps me a lot. A third practice I personally utilize to promote better sleep is “breathing exercises”. I center and relax myself by counting the seconds which I spend inhaling and exhaling. Beginning with a count to three, I inhale at the speed which I count until I reach three and repeat that on the exhale. Normally I go up to 6 and then I restart until I don’t. As a teenager and young adult I suffered night terrors and as a young adult the weight of a guilty conscience. As an adult, usually trouble sleep comes from the stress of my personal goals and whom depends on me! For one it may be a work load, for another maybe an ill parent or child. Regardless of your “why” I hope something from this article can become your “how”. I learned my techniques from a stay at a yoga retreat in Massachusetts about 7 or 8 years ago and have been applying them ever since. I personally do not think sleep just magically happens, I think it takes methods of self conservation such as good dietary habits, directing the traffic of your thoughts, and relaxation however you are able to acquire it. Yes, there are over the counter chewable gummies, syrups, teas and more that you can use to release more melatonin or other “relaxing sensations” however you may find that these maneuvers are free and organic. Self care is also a nice cushion to a persons confidence and overall health, you can take pride in intentional practices to enhance your sleep; yourself. No guilt to bare about costs or concerns to be had about additional ingredients or exposures of anything that requires purchase. I was very fortunate to have the experience I did at the retreat in Massachusetts and will continue to share my strategies with anyone looking to remedy less than restful “rest”. I believe these things to be helpful to teach to children and apply to ourselves as adults. I am not a licensed Somnologist, I speak from first hand experience that has done a great deal to help me rest better. If anything you’ve read comes to help you personally rest better as well I hope you pass it on! Rest well!
By Leslie Leh4 years ago in Humans
What Is Free Association, And How Does It Work?
In this blog post, we will discuss what free association is, how to use it effectively, and some of the benefits that come from doing so. It typically works by encouraging clients to say whatever comes to mind as they listen (or in some cases, as they speak), no matter how disorganized or “off topic” it may seem at first glance. This way, you can better achieve your goals with therapy because anything that pops into your head will likely provide valuable insight into what you are feeling inside. When working with an experienced therapist who knows free association well, this process becomes much easier than if trying on your own. By allowing yourself to be completely open and honest about what you think & feel - even when those things make no sense whatsoever - you can begin to understand yourself better.
By Blissed Out4 years ago in Humans
How To Become A Better Partner: 10 Tips to Grow Your Relationship.
1. Ask your partner something new Communication is arguably the #1 determining factor of success for every relationship. It’s nice to ask how your partner’s day went, but it can feel routine when you ask the same thing every day or don’t branch out into new topics of conversation. Enhance your relationship and communication by putting in the extra effort to question your significant other on something more specific. By asking new questions (like “How did you feel about that?” or “What do you prefer doing at work instead?”), you’ll avoid going through the motions, listen more intently to each other, and have more meaningful discussions.
By digoo Phlip4 years ago in Humans
5 ways to improve your morning routine
Usually, our mornings make up the rest of our day. The stuff we do in the early dawn goes on to either help us or haunt us through out the day. That’s why it’s very important to make sure that our morning routines aren’t full of BS and actually good so that our days are significantly better.
By Rochan Kumar4 years ago in Humans
Limited Screen Time For Adults
Screen time limitation has been a major discipline parents have been incorporating into their children's daily schedules and routines. It is major assist in balancing their virtual time with real time. Back in our days, it would be the TV and our parents would either yell at us to shut the TV off or not TV after certain hours. But back then, if you didn't own a DVD player or cable then you were left to watch the local channels which if they didn't have anything good on we would simply shut the TV off voluntarily.
By Julia Alfred4 years ago in Humans
How an Idea of Buying a $500 Couch Snowballed into a $4000 Remodeling Adventure. Top Story - January 2022.
My grief counselor told me that someday, with the passage of time, I would look back and smile at many of the memories Sid and I made together during our 45-year loving marriage.
By Joan Gershman4 years ago in Humans
