social media
Social Media for modern lovers in the digital age.
F%cking Social Media
Social media is everywhere these days, it seems like the only way to get anything done is on Social Media. Now please understand Social Media can in fact be a blessing, I've connected with other abusive relationship survivors and had amazing conversations. It's been amazing to connect with others who've been through the same things and to know that I'm not alone in my healing process. That everything I've been through isn't wierd and that other people can relate. I've also found some amazing authors through social media whose books have had profound impacts on my life and the way I think. I've also had the priviledge of sharing my story in hopes of helping other survivors. But behind the amazing connections and conversations I've had theres a dark side to social media. People showing you only what they want you to see and making there life seem just perfect enough. People editing photos to make themselves how they think you'd like them to look. It's a scary world Social Media. How are we supposed to make real authentic connections if we're on Social Media 24/7? The answer is we're not. Now I need to preface this by saying what I said earlier about connecting with other survivors. That has been a blessing. But on the other side of that Social media is filled with people pretending to be someone they're not. It's filled with people that who don't really care about you or have hidden motives. While Social Media can be a great place it can destory people. I think the trick is to balance reality from the destorted image Social Media presents to us. I think the most important thing I've learned is the value of being present. While I may have a mission of sharing my story to those that need to hear it, I also know that Social Media can be a toxic place. It's bad for my mental health and my healing process in some ways. Because while I can find other people that do in fact relate to everything I've been through, there are also times were I don't trust people and feel like maybe they're pretending to be someone else. Maybe I've seen to many episodes of Catfish. But I also don't trust people. It's really hard for me to anyways. See all my relationships in the past have been negative or unhealthy in some way and I'm still trying to work through that. I'm not stuck in my story, I do need to clarify that. I'm simply trying to heal. Heal from the crap I've been through and to be honest Social Media doesn't help to much. In fact it doesn't help at all. It makes things a bit worse. It can make me feel extremely lonely sometimes and unworthy of love. It can also make me feel fat and like I shouldn't eat anything. I realize Social Media can be a tool and a way to connect with people. I'm forever grateful for that. But I need to be careful also as Social Media has destroyed me over the years. I've had some interesting moments to say the least. I certainly apprecaite the good parts of Social Media but I don't appreciate the bad parts and the harm it can cause on people. It's pretty bad. I enjoy laughing at a good Tik Tok here and there and tweeting about whatever Easter Egg Taylor Swift has dropped recently. But I do want to make one thing very clear. I'm really trying to heal so on behalf of all other healing people be kind.
By Amanda Nicole4 years ago in Humans
The effects on slut shaming
I cried reading an article about slut shaming and how slut shaming have harmful effects on young women and older. Because this reminds me of a housemate of mine who triggered my memories. I think slut shaming is digusting. I remember watching MAFS , many people thought Olivia was doing revenge porn. She was'nt doing revenge porn because the image was not from a paywall on OnlyFans or steal it from a OnlyFans page. It was used to bully her. The image was from Dom's social media. Dom had no problem people seeing the image , but it was used to gossip about her.
By Brandi Dexter4 years ago in Humans
Instagram, the Best of All Possible Worlds
I have seen a man throw a CD 3,000 times against the soft opening of a CD player until it fits. I have seen how a giant hamburger is cooked, a big pizza, a giant paella, and the vast sandwiches made by a lovely countryman from Úbeda named Ginés. I have met Robert Wido, an endearing gentleman from Bilbao who smokes marijuana and listens to Kendrick Lamar. Another gentleman in the United States, much sexier, a fan of denim clothes, tries on jeans daily, with boots and t-shirts of punk rock groups. I have seen almost perfect bodies (according to the most widespread canons of beauty) tanned by the sun on the beaches of Bali, Malibu, and Benidorm. I've seen dozens of people shuffle and dozens of others doing fantastic parkour stunts. It looks like they were going to kill each other. I have witnessed expeditions through the jungle, traverses through the rapids of an equatorial river, and adventures in the snow. People who dance ridiculous dances. Infographics on the size of black holes found at the center of spiral galaxies. Philosopher quotes, writer promo, lousy verses. Ellen Allien DJing, Anfisa Letyago DJing, Deborah de Luca DJing. A gigantic machine reducing a car to a small cube of cables and metal. A soccer player in a bikini scored an incredible goal for the entire squad. People posing with Alfaguara novels to act interesting. Animals, many animals: a man who tries to put a bear in his van, a cute koala that hugs his baby, a dog that gives kisses to everyone, a fox sleeping on a tree branch. A man walking on the wing of an abandoned Boeing in Indonesia. Another man who puts all the billiard balls in one shot. A trick to get a broken key out of a lock using candle wax. Slow motion footage of a burning match. People paragliding between the sharp cliffs. A concert offset by the Dead Kennedys in the '70s.
By Marco Antonio4 years ago in Humans
The Truth About Mainstream Media And Why You Shouldn't Trust Any Of Them
Regardless of which side of the fence you sit on in the Political Arena, one thing is for certain. News these days is loaded with bias, misinformation and false narratives. Most people who are able to acknowledge this have stopped paying attention to the news all together. (and though that probably helps to maintain your sanity...) it still has the potential to have you being caught unaware about something important going on that you may have wanted to prepare for.
By Raven MacLeaqn4 years ago in Humans
Where My Empathy Grew From
Jubilee is a multimedia company that inspires empathy for the human good. I remember reading the description of the company and watching their YouTube videos, and wow!!! I remember one summer I was just scrolling through their immense list of videos and kept watching one after the other. I was immersed in the content of their videos; it helped me at a time when I felt lonely to know there are plenty of people out there to get to know and make life-long relationships with. I was just amazed and loved their channel immediately. Something about their channel just immersed and gravitated towards me. Jubilee hosts a variety of videos that bring people to a healthy open discourse of dialogue and listening.
By Julian Zamora4 years ago in Humans
