self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
What It's Like to Lose Yourself... And Then Climb Right Back Up
I have always felt a great love for life. Here's the thing: Life after high school is strange. You're told it's going to be all fun, that you're going to discover who you are and make big changes that will impact your life forever. But no one ever tells you just how confusing it all is.
By Mary Devlin7 years ago in Motivation
Breaking Up with Self Doubt
So I recently decided to begin the journey of breaking up with self-doubt. Let’s be real, self-doubt has kept us all from doing what it is we really want to do with our lives. We come up with great ideas to begin the planning process but never do the necessary leg work because we let our inner negative thoughts deter us. Self-doubt is normal but we have to come up with ways to overcome the fear. One thing I found out about myself is a lot of my self-doubt came from me not wanting to step out of comfort zone. I consider myself to be a pretty independent person and I don’t like asking for help unless I really have no choice. I am a single mother so I’ve always played it safe. So for years, I used the excuse of having children to stop me from taking pursuing a lot of my dreams and goals. Because I now know that about myself, every day I have started challenging myself to one thing a day that takes me out of my comfort zone. These things are sometimes small but it allows me to get a feel of myself mentally and emotionally doing something different. Knowing yourself also plays a major role in self-doubt. Sometimes we think we know ourselves or think we know what we want for ourselves based on other outside factors, but we haven’t taken the time to do a self-report inventory. Just because your zodiac sign is Gemini doesn’t mean you have to feed into the stereotype of having a split personality. Just because you come from a family of nurses doesn’t mean you have to be a nurse. Learn yourself and you’ll find out your true passion. Learning yourself requires some honesty that may be a tough pill to swallow. So after coming up with the topic for today’s episode, I asked several people why they often doubt themselves and a lot of people said “Lack of confidence.” I found this answer interesting because the definition of self-doubt is “lack of confidence in oneself or one's abilities.” Not being confident in your actions will kill your goals every time. I found that the most common way to overcome lack of confidence is believing in yourself. If you keep the mindset of "I’m not where I use to be," you’ll go far with accomplishing your goals.
By Damn Pam7 years ago in Motivation
The Fear of Failure
I will begin with Surviving in the World Tip: #1. This first tip has to do with one of the gushing horrors of the world. The big, bad, crushing, coercive, evils that make us run in fear. FAILURE (Queue the screeching violins, and meandering piano progressions from every horror film). So many of us are afraid to do something, and are scared to be ourselves, because we can’t bear to look failure in the eyes and say F*** you... FREE you, duh! What, did you think I was saying the f-word?
By Keane Neal-Riquier7 years ago in Motivation
The Killer Power of... Kindness?
Much of the music I hear these days isn’t very wise or inspirational; it seems to centre around the same subjects, which are often selfish, immoral or disrespectful. If I’m listening to music, I want to hear a melody (and a beat) that encourages/inspires/excites/soothes me. Cue Frozen’s "Let It Go"…
By Kel Hynds7 years ago in Motivation
Giving Life the Bitch Stare
One of the things I can’t stand is how life has a way of slapping you in the face and then leaving you with the red mark and agonizing pain. Lately, life has been slapping me in the face, and I am not sure why. In my opinion, life slaps me in the face when I set my mind on something and it doesn’t work out or when I swear to start my day off positive and BAM! Something annoying and unnecessary happens. When these different things happen, I want to give life the bitch stare; I want to look at my life and say, "Come on now, give me a break because you’re doing the most and I am at my breaking point." I often have these moments because I realize that I am not in a position in my life that I want to be in, and for some reason, life keeps on going no matter what. I want to give life the bitch stare when it takes a toll on people that are close to me, mainly when their life moments affect my life moments. For example, my husband is going through a lot right now, and if anyone hears his story, you would honestly think that life is purposely screwing him over. My husband and I are a team, so we are going to get through these things together, but damn can we get a break for just a moment? Today I found myself just sitting inside the house all day because it was just way too hot to go outside. A part of me wanted to take the risk and go out with the kids anyway, but instead of doing that I stayed in the house and thought to myself, "Why is my life so dull right now?" This moment made me want to give life the bitch stare because I wanted to be closer to my family, which ended up leading me to the state of Georgia at the beginning of summer; so, of course, it was going to be crazy hot outside. Life has been kicking my ass so bad lately because I don’t have any control of it and I am not sure when I finally will. I want to scream at my life and tell it, "Please be patient." Finally, I want to scrunch up my face, roll my eyes, and roll my neck as I give my life the final bitch stare, hoping that it takes the hint and straightens itself out.
By Maelyn Jeffers7 years ago in Motivation
Self-Care Is Not Selfish
It was 5:30 AM and I has snoozed my alarm 3 times already. I rolled out of bed and started strategically planning how I was going to get my four children up without having to deal with backlash. Normally I could take several rounds of the lights on lights off game, or my daughter waking up and then going in the bathroom and falling to sleep on the bathroom rug. I just didn't have the energy today, I was truly tired. Every morning was a miracle, getting four people not including myself fed watered and in four separate locations and still managing to get my ass in my seat at work by 8:30. I had a doctor's appointment that day before work. I can remember feeling anxious about all the work that was waiting for me at my job, while sitting in the doctor's office waiting for my results. I could never just be in the moment, I was always stressing about work, bills, dinner, my son's behavior in school. Here I was waiting for results that could be life changing, and I was thinking about everybody but myself.
By Naomi Anaya7 years ago in Motivation
Overcome Self-limiting Beliefs in Less Than 10 Minutes
Do you have self doubt that has blocked certain blessings from your life that you want to change? In particular, we all have certain beliefs in our mind that hold us back from living our best lives. No one is really excluded. Certain beliefs about love, money, career, and marriage shape our adulthood. To keep things simple let’s call all of these things ‘limiting beliefs.’
By Silena Le Beau7 years ago in Motivation
Accepting Your Flaws
Everyone at some point in their life has disliked or even hated some parts of their bodies—except if you think extremely highly of yourself and have always thought you were perfect, then cheers to you. It may have started in your early days, or in your 20s, or much later in your life. With me it was my skin, my hair, and my teeth; it seems like a lot of stuff to dislike about yourself, and it is. It was not the color of my skin per se, it was what happened to it. When I was about four or five years old, I got into a home accident and I was burnt by some hot beans. When I tell people this, they think it’s weird. But you can get burnt by anything hot, it’s the temperature that counts. My aunt was making some delicious porridge beans, and my clumsy self stumbled into the place making a fuss about hot chocolate—I loved it so much then, I had it every night. In an effort to get me out of the kitchen, I mistakenly hit it and fell, and the whole thing came tumbling down. I can’t remember the pain, but I know I was in a lot of pain. I believe my aunt poured water on me, which made it worse—some research says that works sometimes. Honestly, I don’t know, I'm not a medical person, I just know it made it worse. My parents weren't around so my neighbors had to take me to the hospital. I remember it so well: There were a lot of people in the car, it was a family, so the husband in the driver's seat, the wife in the passenger's seat carrying me, their daughter in the backseat, and there were others in the backseat—I can’t remember who they were (I guess not so well now, Chimdi). I remember their daughter crying because we were close friends. I looked at her wondering why she was crying so much when I was the one in pain, I wasn’t even crying that hard 😀 ha... not for long, because I turned and I looked at myself and I started screaming, again, because my skin was peeling. I wasn’t in that much pain, it was the fact that my skin was peeling that made me cry. I’m actually laughing writing this, but that’s why time heals.
By Chimdi Chime7 years ago in Motivation
Affirmations
We underestimate ourselves. We live in a society that conditions us to believe in something greater than ourselves. Sometimes it has an effect to believe in something bigger than us. It can give us hope. Sometimes we can feel so clouded with everything around us it can send a ripple through our minds that can make us feel defeated. It can be hard to discern the truth.
By Karina Nistal7 years ago in Motivation
