self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Resilience Rewards With Results
I talked yesterday of adversity and difficulty, how inevitable it is in life, and how we should seek out the opportunities that these times bring, rather than focus on all the negatives of the situation. Easier said than done indeed, but more than possible, especially the more we learn to strengthen our mindset, and work on our emotional control. There's one particular trait that we all possess within us, that is pivotal, when it comes to dealing with and overcoming times of adversity, failure, and loss. That trait is none other than resilience. Resilience is possessing the ability to recover quickly from difficulty, challenge, failure, and adversity. Now we do each possess resilience within us, however the vast majority of us only draw on it when we have no other option but to, such as when it's life threatening, or something that impacts our way of life, or if it disrupts our method of survival, or if it threatens our health, or maybe it places our family in danger. We then we normally would do whatever it takes to negate the situation, and we work hard to find a solution to overcome the adversity. Where we should also be applying our resilience more though, is in the pursuit of our goals, our happiness, and our success.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
How humility is transforming my relationships - and teaching me to be kinder to myself
Do you ever feel entirely alone amongst a group of people? Felt unsure of who you are, and how to connect to others? I do all the time, and here's my take on a way to move forward.
By Alissa Mann5 years ago in Motivation
Stop Settling for a Mediocre Life
I lived a mediocre life for many years. Mediocre was my mindset. It drove me to hide in my bedroom with the blinds down and sit in darkness. My life was dark. It felt cold. I watched everybody else in my life succeed at a business or a career or starting a family. Not me though, I was a joke.
By Tim Denning5 years ago in Motivation
Every Difficulty Has An Opportunity
Life can bring us so many happy moments and wonderful memories, but on the flip side, many times we also find ourselves facing extreme hardship, sorrow, hurt, pain, difficulty, and adversity. We can be dragged to the absolute lowest depths of despair, facing circumstances and situations which are emotionally destructive and utterly soul destroying. They often take us to the point we feel the whole world is falling apart around us, and we fail to see any light at the end of what seems like a very long and dark tunnel. Whether it's suffering the tragic loss of a loved one, battling a personal debilitating health issue, facing the prospect of bankruptcy, being laid off from our job, dealing with a relationship/marital split, overcoming the complete loss of our house and possessions due to a fire, or whatever it may be, it's these sort of events that leave us feeling devastated and crushed. It leaves us in complete anxiety and fear about what the immediate future holds for us, and how we are going to handle and overcome these circumstances and emotions. Like I suffered through, many individuals also battle with depression and mental health issues, such is the extremity of the adversity in their life. It's quite upsetting that so many people take their own lives, just to escape the hurt, pain, sorrow, unhappiness, and misery, they are forced to deal with. There's no sugar coating over these times, they are horrible to deal with.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Introduction to a Journey
The Past few years have been one Hell of a joyride. There's been so many twists and turns that knowing where I came from, where I'm headed, or how far I've come has been damn near impossible to figure out. Every time I've created even the slightest semblance of a plan, Life throws that map out the window. But the future isn't a destination anyway, and as for the past?.... Maybe we cant really develop hindsight without enough Life Experience. Maybe hindsight IS Experience AND the Lesson all wrapped within a Beautifully Paradoxical Gift- The Present!
By Jerome Henderson5 years ago in Motivation
My Season of Courage
Shame. Just typing the word makes me feel it. Feel it at the very core of my being. I carry it as if my life depended on it. It’s debilitating and terrifying and comfortable. It keeps me from fully participating in my life and stuck within a cozy nightmare.
By Andrea Jardine5 years ago in Motivation
When?
Procrastination is undoubtedly one of the biggest success killers in life. You'd be in an extreme minority of people worldwide if you haven't delayed making an important decision, or put off certain tasks for the next day, or for a later time, at various times in your life. Whether it be a case of setting back a task, because it's mundane, boring, complicated, or energy sapping, or be it a decision that we are afraid to proceed with, because we fear the worst result and we want more convincing, the vast majority of us believe delaying such tasks and decisions is what's best for us. How wrong we are! So firstly, there are decisions. Now, for starters, we actually use procrastination as a form of tactic, when it comes to people's invitations or offers. Inside ourselves, we know full well that we aren't really interested in certain invitations and offers, or perhaps it's something that we couldn't be bothered engaging in, but rather than flat out saying no, we are guilty of leaving that invitee with an inconclusive response. It's the good old "I'll think about it", or "I'll let you know", or "Not now, but maybe in the future", sort of responses. We do it because we feel rude in saying no, when the reality is, we are actually being rude by not being truthful in the first place. It's disrespectful to the other party, and not a response we should be proud of. There's nothing wrong with being honest and forthright.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
I am in control of my self-control.
People hear self-control and assume not having it is a problem. But when you are self aware of yourself, are you really out of control? If you know why you do the things that you do, and you can recognize the signs of you starting to get out of control, isn't that a sign that you are learning self-control? Is there something that you can do when you are feeling out of control, something you can do to transfer that lack of control, somewhere else?
By Katherine Estelle5 years ago in Motivation
How to be a winner!
Attitudes gets formed from experience. They are formed over the years either from observation or from experience. They can be learned in a variety of ways. Even a simple advertisement could influence you and may even have a change on your thoughts about a particular product. This kind of attitude formation is known as classical conditioning. Another kind of conditioning is the Operant Conditioning where the attitude develops from other people’s thinking. Sometimes people around us could make an impact on our behavior and change ourselves. And finally attitudes could be developed by observing people around us. A simple example of this kind of attitude development is, kids trying to be what their parents are. This is just observation and imitation, that develops into an attitude later.
By Author Grace Ruto5 years ago in Motivation
