healing
How to heal fully and properly.
Loving Yourself
For my birthday this year, I decided to dedicate an entire year to just loving myself. I am studying to be a doctor and I've always spent more time caring for other people than myself. It wasn't until my recent mental breakdown that I realized how important taking care of myself was. For years people have been telling me that you can't love anyone until you love yourself. But what did that mean exactly? I had no idea until I started my own journey. Now I understand, you can never truly experience happiness until you love yourself and you cannot accept another person's flaws until you accept your own.
By Angela Love6 years ago in Motivation
The Transplant
Before the move... I lived in a expensive neighborhood in a wealthy Northern Virginia County. I had a roommate whom at the time was a government employee, a bachelor that made 90k a year. What about Me? I had changed jobs a bit. At the time I believe I worked at a warehouse for 8 hrs picked my son up from his current day care went home for a hour to sleep and then went back to work for 5 hrs at night to valet peoples garbage from big apartment complexes.
By Shea Bear Saddler6 years ago in Motivation
The Goodness of Adversity
The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent; but if we can come to terms with this indifference and accept the challenges of life within the boundaries of death ... our existence as a species can have genuine meaning and fulfillment. However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light~Stanley Kubrick
By Ivy Lois 6 years ago in Motivation
Thank You For Helping Me Reach My Rock Bottom
Even before COVID-19 spread and the whole world was put on hold, I felt lost, stuck and alone. Two weeks before Premier Doug Ford declared a State of Emergency in Ontario, Canada, I turned 40. To say I was dreading this particular birthday is putting it mildly. I outright ignored it. I’m single, childless, living in my sister’s basement, overweight, working a thankless job that pays slightly more than minimum wage and buried in debt. This is not how I pictured myself turning 40. I didn’t think things could get worse. And then the quarantine happened.
By Andrea Jardine6 years ago in Motivation
BUS ROUTE
Its probably a twisted fantasy; more than most daydreams… but sobriety does that to me. Living here has me existing in my consciousness. My mom constantly wanting to be praised and seen as the boss. Its fucking exhausting! I used to argue a lot more with her. Constantly needing to prove my point. Lately, I try to bite my tongue. Knowing she’s been worse… My dad, he’s a quiet, hard worker. Then my siblings also wary, with kiss ass agreements always in place. They thoroughly have zero back bone. Always in agreement. Even when it ruins their chances. I should have known to stay away. But it’s the only place I had left. I shouldn’t be annoyed of that fact but I am. It’s truly pointless to argue back with her. As I get older, her ways become even more obvious. Like what the hell do you think this is? Children are for life! Not just 18 years. If you couldn’t accept that responsibility, WHY DID YOU KEEP HAVING CHILDREN? Never the less, I continue to love, reflect, understand and forgive. My family must drive into town to buy food and goods. The stores are two hours away. I would literally have to tell them some bullshit excuse of why I’m leaving. When I’ll be back… it’s like being a child, living in your parent’s home all over again.
By Heather Glasses6 years ago in Motivation
To Me With Love...
Letter of forgiveness Over the years, I have learned the importance of forgiveness. I think the biggest thing about forgiveness is that from what I hear it is not for the people who hurt me but for me. Many people have their own theory on why that is but I guess for me it is because of all the problems it can cause to hold a grudge. The crazy part about forgiveness is that even though there is an object of it you’re the only one who can feel those horrible feelings you’re carrying. So, this letter is to help you to forgive.
By Riva N. Jackson6 years ago in Motivation
The Accident
The story I am going to share with you definitely changed my perspective towards the importance of life and has taught me why we should value things we have. I am not a good writer and this is my first story. I think this message is really something I want to get across people.
By Bawa6 years ago in Motivation
Being the good one
I have always aspired to be The Good One. Since when I was little. I still vividly remember the day when my mother kissed me and hugged me for the very last time and told me with a proud tone in her voice I would have never hear again I have been ‘Good’.I still remember up to this day how happy that made me feel, what an incredible and sweet energy embraced me that afternoon. I guess losing that sort of acceptance and recognition from my mum’s side not long after made me an angry,isolated,teenager and the insecure and clingy adult that I happen to have become now. I now more than ever strive for people’s approval and support. I just realised it at 32 yearsold. During the past 7 years I moved out of parents house, move country and attempted to be on my own two feet. I sometimes failed and collapsed but here I am. And just at this stage I have only realised how incredibly stupid and vulnerable I must appear to the eye of others who know me.First I thought only through studying hard and showing outstanding results in college and at Uni I could receive love and appreciation, than it was the job or career path that eventually no members of my family ever truly approved. And than it was the love quest, that insufferable mystic desire of finding the one who could complete me, cherish me, protect me. Instead I ended up ‘playing’ the part of the protector in all my recent relationships that inevitably ended up with me getting exhausted and running away with a broken heart.I embarked in a few relationships that emotionally destroyed me and dismantled me from within without realising I totally lost myself in the attempt to play the same old character.Why is that ? I have asked myself multiple times. Why nobody can see how many efforts I am putting to show them how much I love and adore them? And why all the people I happen to know who have the same features as me are struggling exactly the same? It seems to me that there are two very distinct types of people in this world: the vigorous fuckers, and the ones who get fucked. Also paraphrasing winners/ losers. I always see myself like the latter but what if I am indeed truly a winner? I think I had an epiphany the other day when a girlfriend told me ‘think about how miserable you could be know if you were still with him’. And suddenly I felt sorry for that person but not for myself actually I felt smart and considerate for once in my life. What I mean by this is that there should always be a way for us to see a positive side of things, people, situations. For the first time in my life I do not want to think at myself like a loser but like a truly loving and caring person that deserves and will find happiness and love.Failing at something in life does not mean you are failing in life entirely. At 32 I have started to accept myself as I am, maybe insecure, clingy, dreamy but still hopeful.
By Anouk B6 years ago in Motivation
Quarantine Blues
As someone with a compromised immune system, and someone who is having surgery within the next few days, quarantine has not ended for me despite the loosening of regulations here in Colorado. My golden birthday is in two weeks - I will be turning 26 on the 26th - and I am dreaming of what my perfect day might have been had we not been in a pandemic. This time last year I was suicidal and ended up being hospitalized over the past year for Major Depressive Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Anxiety, Bulimia, Fibromyalgia, and PTSD, so making it to my 26th birthday is a huge milestone for me. While I am dreaming about the day I might have had before our current pandemic I am just happy to be alive and to have made it to another birthday. It is the simple pleasures I have learned to appreciate, and it is those small acts that I miss the most.
By Ashley Nestler, MSW6 years ago in Motivation
